Do you believe him? Do you fear that the possibility of him not being at the same place as you, not being ready for what you want, will make him not love you anymore? Real love can have that conversation, and not having real love is something best found out and not avoided.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I just know him too well. If I talk to him about this and he isn't in the same place as me he will start pulling away because he gets uncomfortable. If he pulls away, we all know what that could lead to.
It's a HUGE risk and I am just not a risk taker. I seriously need more courage and the liquid kind just isn't working for me.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
If not, then is it worth paying such a price to protect it?
Change is hard to face.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Wow. If you can pray, see what God says. Be true to yourself. Who wants to grow? Do you want your R to be the same year after year? This DBing posting etc., is all about personal growth or we wouldn't be here. You certainly know this by now. Get a DBing coach. Pay for 3 sessions and get the advice on how to exactly communicate with H.
sniff...sniff.....My baby graduated high school last night. It was a beautiful night, if a little hot, and it all went off without a hitch. It's sinking in though that I only have a little over 10 weeks left with him.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
They don't ever really stop being your kids you know. I know around my parents I feel like I am still in my 20's and yet I am nearly 50!
I think Marc leaving means alot more to you than you him just going into the military. Have you set another deadline? Enjoy this time together. Now is the next chapter that you all three can begin.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
It does. It means the end of a chapter of his life and the beginning of a new one. It means that I have no excuses not to concentrate on changing me. Scary.
No, I haven't set any new deadlines. It's just too much for me to think about. Rocking the stability I have is just too frightening to me. More scary than spending the rest of my life without a commitment. I have to let it go. It hurts, but destabilizing my life over some arbitrary commitment would ultimately be more painful.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Seriously I just want to post on the alt that Gabe you must be blind! Mish is going crazy without a commitment. Work out this relationship and marry her already!!!
I am sure that would help.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
