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Regarding how our son was taking our separation.

Me: Is S doing okay?
W: He's acting the same as he always has.
Me: I thought you said he cries most nights when I leave?
W: Yeah, but other than that he's been acting fine.
Me: You told me the other day that he's been really quiet and a little moody?
W: Yeah, but he was doing that before the separation.
Me: That's funny, I didn't notice that before the separation and you never brought it up to me that you noticed.
W: You didn't ask so I just didn't say anything.

Yeah right.


Me: 33
W: 27
S: 5
D: 2
Bomb: 1/2/14
First Separation: 1/25/14
MC: 2/7/14 (one time only)
Moved Back in: 3/31/14
W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14
Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
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Downsize? Why the hell would we want to downsize? We'll have the house paid off in 4 years!

as I'm thinking we're already living paycheck to paycheck, she's spending over budget, and we're looking at having to split into 2 households with all the overhead of each...

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Thought of some more:
W: Selling the house would be a wash, so I'll just keep it
M: Can you give me the numbers version of what that means? I don't think selling would be a wash.
W: Was that meant to be condescending? (never gave me the breakdown)

"Out of hospitality, I'll allow you to live in the house (that I bought and am maintaining) until the end of February, and of course you can continue to pay for everything on your own until that time."

"I can't believe you aren't more concerned for my safety" - in the same email as "let's be divorced in 7 days"

"You don't understand what a tough position this has put me in, I'm having to look into a second job now!"


H: 29
WAXW: 30

Bomb Drop- 9/9/13
Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14
D Final- 5/21/14
XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
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Originally Posted By: juliegayle
"I am only doing what you have always wanted" in regards to ending m. Guess WAS don't get the same lesson we do about mind reading.

And

"I am doing this for the kids. They want to see me happy"


Yikes, this one^^ really spoke to me today. I'm giving it a 3 "Faces" Award,

which I just made up. I think 3 is for the more outlandish, ("FOR THE KIDS"?? Really??)

and 2 faces are for the "OMG I got that one too!" as in "the script".

cry tired crazy


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
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Overheard after OM went NC after I confronted W about A:

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He (meaning LBH) took away the only thing I ever loved.


Cue the violins.

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My W a couple of months after BD- "I just want YOU to be happy." Classic!

And another, I've mentioned this one in my thread before but this was in MC (I was there even though I wasn't part of the exchange):

C: Do you love H?
W: Yes.
C: Do you respect him?
W: Oh yes, very much.
C: What about the sex, was he selfish about sex?
W: No, I love the sex! I wouldn't mind continuing it in fact!
C: So you love him, respect him, and enjoy the sex?
W: Yes.
C: Well in counseling we call that the makings of a great relationship! I don't understand what the issue is?
W: I don't want to try.


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57
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C: Do you love H?
W: Yes.
C: Do you respect him?
W: Oh yes, very much.
C: What about the sex, was he selfish about sex?
W: No, I love the sex! I wouldn't mind continuing it in fact!
C: So you love him, respect him, and enjoy the sex?
W: Yes.
C: Well in counseling we call that the makings of a great relationship! I don't understand what the issue is?
W: I don't want to try.


crazy confused whistle mad


Me 43 W 43
S 10 (Special Needs)
M: 14 yrs
T: 18 yrs
Bomb: 09/16/12
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I asked one time "Why are we getting divorced"

EXW - You took me to this pizza place too much
M - Must of have funny look on face
EXW - There were lots of other things
M - Such as?
EXW - I Can't remeber but there were!

OOOYYY

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EXW speaking to her mother and sisters

I wish I never married and never wanted kids.

This was after 24 yrs of marriage and 3 older children

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Originally Posted By: mirage
EXW speaking to her mother and sisters

I wish I never married and never wanted kids.

This was after 24 yrs of marriage and 3 older children


I just had that little gem thrown my way a few weeks ago. Granted, we haven't been married for 24 years.

My wife got pregnant with our son before we got married.

W: I never wanted kids or to get married.
M: Then why did you say yes when I asked you to marry me?
W: Well, we had our son together and you seemed like a really great guy and I thought that was what I wanted at the time. (we got married after she had our son)
M: So you don't want to be married now?
W: I never said that.

It frustrates the ever living crap out of me. It's the mixed signals nearly every L.B.S. deals with. In one breathe they're talking about how they never wanted to get married. In the next they say they never said they don't want to be married.


Me: 33
W: 27
S: 5
D: 2
Bomb: 1/2/14
First Separation: 1/25/14
MC: 2/7/14 (one time only)
Moved Back in: 3/31/14
W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14
Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
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