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I decided my thread was getting too long so I better start a new one before they lock it. Of course, what better day than New Year's Day to start one? grin

Today is a relaxing day and I am spending it watching football and contemplating my next steps for the next year.

As I've said before, I'm not good at setting goals. I'm sure it's out of fear of failure but I'm trying to pick just 2 goals to meet in the next 3 months. I'm hoping that by picking two small goals with a short time limit I may accomplish them. I'm narrowing down what those will be but I'll share them once I decide.

For now, Happy New Year to each and every one of you. I hope it brings you many blessings and lots of new beginnings.


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Happy New Year. Ummmm I think the trick when setting goals is to make sure they are attainable and have a time frame. If you set goals that are hard to reach you will feel like a failure. Set small goals at 1st. reach them and than move on to bigger things.


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Mish,

I actually worked with a Girl Scout troop on goal setting.

What I have found that helps is to identify the goals, and then sublist the things you will do to reach the goal. For example:

I will lose 10 lbs by the end of February
1. I will keep a food journal
2. I will walk 3x/week, and weight lift on other days
3. I will do something fun that gets me off the couch on 1 weekend day that keeps me moving. Like bowling or riding my bike or ice skating.
4. I'll walk 2x/wk on my lunch break

If you can identify the steps you can make that help you focus, it's so much easier to achieve them.

Gineen is right on not making too many. If you do too much, you'll short circuit and bomb out.

I need to work on some goals myself. I have a lot more than 10 to take off, and I want to commit to that this year myself.

Good luck!

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Hi Mishka!

I actually read something a few years ago about setting goals. Can't remember where I read it. But I did write about it on my old threads. It works for me,

When you have a goal and a corresponding behavior you need to change to meet that goal pay attention to your failures. And don't hate on yourself. If you do the wrong behavior just be aware of that. And maybe 10 times you will do the wrong behavior. And then maybe the next 10 times you will do the wrong behavior 9 times.

And the next time only 8 times. And so on. By paying attention you will make progress and soon you will be reaching your goals.

Aloha,

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I've been working on fixing my mindset. Correcting my own self-talk is very difficult but it's getting there.

Next step is in the works....


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that's a great goal to have; i might adopt it too!


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Mish,

OMG! I can't believe airfare. What happened???

I have to go to Palermo Italy in mid-April and air fares are *insane* -- like $1300!!!! What happened to $300 tix to London? How can I get over to the continent and land in Palermo for a reasonable price?


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You are going to Europe at the beginning of high season. Hard to find deals then. You almost have to go in the winter to get a good fare. I am sure there might be some deals to be found . You might also check nearby cities in Italy to see if you can get a better rate. Also check your departure and return dates, weekends and Mondays are higher rates.

Hope this helps. kat


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$1300 in spring to the continent is pretty good now. Keep in mind, nearly $500 of that total are 'fuel surcharges'. It's absurd, but it is what it is. frown

The only other idea I would have for getting any more discount is to find a consolidator that has contracted airfare. There are massive restrictions and they are hard to find now but it's worth a shot.

I'd suggest DFW Tours, Picasso Travel, or TFI Tours. Their websites are pretty clunky because they don't put their money into flashy web design so it's usually better to call them. They may or may not have a better deal but it's worth a try.

What dates exactly are you going?


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Is it near Easter? Loads of tourists head to italy for easter.

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