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[planet]

Kids draw things they're feeling. Maybe tears is the only way she knew to represent sadness.

Many times our children know our feelings before we do. Kids have to pick up on things because adults don't often share their feelings with kids.

Thanks labug. I understand.

Maybe I should encourage D5 to draw more in order to understand her true feelings since she seem so reluctant to talk about it.
BTW, I have quit asking her 'pressuring' questions.

[MrBond]

I'm pretty sure that you were showing them how sad you were. You did it on here quite a bit and kids are very observant.

What has been going on so far?

[planet]

Nothing much. Just being there and spending time with the kids.

XW is cold as ever. I texted her in the morning regarding D4's teacher calling me about something D4 was suppose to return. No reply received and nothing was done too. I asked xMIL about it later in the evening. Apparently she didn't know. Well, I sorted it out with the domestic help. Reminded D4 a number of times to take it to school next morning.

Anyway, got a clearer picture tonight. D5 said that picture of papa crying is because he's losing his children. She explained further. There's just papa and D4 without D5. So she spelt it out quite clearly.
We put that aside and continued playing.

[planet]

xMIL have been putting on a sour face every time I go over to XW's for the past 2 weeks. Don't really know if it's got to do with me.
She doesn't say anything but her expression says a whole lot more. She's the kind where you could read something is wrong with her overt pouting.

I just hope there's not to be another drama of week that involves me.

Right now, I have been spending a little over an hour with the kids 3-4 weekdays. I ask for 1 weekend with the kids.

[MrBond]

"xMIL have been putting on a sour face every time I go over to XW's for the past 2 weeks. Don't really know if it's got to do with me."

The next time you see her, try something different. Go out to her with a warm smile and give her a hug and offer her tea. Be an OUTSTANDING son in law. Try that a few times. She may start to warm up. Try something different.

[Missmygirl]

Planet, how are things with you?

[planet]

The next time you see her, try something different. Go out to her with a warm smile and give her a hug and offer her tea. Be an OUTSTANDING son in law. Try that a few times. She may start to warm up. Try something different.

I understand.
I have always been courteous to her, more so after BD.

Strange thing happened though. Last week, I overheard XW offering to drive xMIL home. OM will do the driving of course. xMIL refused, insisting xSIL will come over to fetch her but xSIL could not make it. xMIL went one to call xFIL to come over. Now, xFIL is the last person she would call and may risk him getting upset and all. I don't know why she refuse the offer from XW and XW chiding her for it.
It's not like OM and XW never came and pick her up from her place before. It may be something or it may not, whatever the reason, I'm staying out of the family drama since I have zero information on what's going on over there.

Anyway, she does speaks to me mainly about the kids. I just don't know why she seems upset lately.

Planet, how are things with you?

I'm doing ok.

Chinese New Year is approaching. Reunion Dinner on the eve is going to be very different this year. No W. No kids. Bro will be away too. Sigh!

Got a gift hamper for XW and her family for the new year though.

[Missmygirl]

I was just in Shenzhen this week and saw them beginning to decorate for the new year. I always like seeing all of the orange trees. What is a gift hamper? Sorry you won't have much family to celebrate with this year.

[planet]

Ah, Shenzen! I have been there. Plenty of electronic goods to be sourced. Blows your mind on how things can be so cheap!
Do you know the overseas Chinese are more 'Chinese' than the Chinese themselves? We have kept many of the traditions alive but now things have started to change in China. Glad to see that.
It's great being able to talk about the other stuff.

A hamper consists of a basket filled usually with food items and beverages wrapped in a transparent plastic paper.

Well, I do have my parents,sis and her bf with me. All is not lost.
Life gives you lemons, make lemonade!

I do love this quote. A special wink to labug!