A bunch of us were hanging out around the water cooler, so to speak and my 45 year old boss was joking that 22 yr new kid asked if he could be in his band. The 22yr old needed a bass player thought my 45yr old boss would totally be able to rock out with them.
My boss jokely went on and on about how his wife would murder him if he joined a band. That he has 3 young kids and works 70 hrs a week and if he decided to take another 3 hrs a week away from the family for band practice - she would murder him.
What was so strange to me was that one of my XH reasons for leaving was that I didnt allow him enough time for his hobbies, like mountain biking. We had a D3 and D1 at the time. Once I found this program I didnt tell him again how insane that thinking was.
To me I feel like his crazy thinking is now flashing in neon "Crazy" while my side of the street is clean as whistle because I didnt react.
When I orginally reacted to his crazy talk it was harder to see who the crazy one was.
BK, you are awesome and I want to hug you, too. You've come so far.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Hi BK! Just catching up on your thread/sitch. So glad you have the D behind you now. I know it has been a long hard slog but guess what? You made it to the other side and look at you now! Keep that street clean and great things are going to happen for you.
I think of you often. (((((BK)))))
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
I'm glad you took some time for yourself over this holiday. You needed some down time after the long and difficult battle w/MLC.
How are your girls doing? I'm sure they are ramping up for the Christmas holidays. Any special plans for the holidays for you and the girls?
You've come a long way and have been an inspiration to many. I hope that you will continue to post and keep us updated on how your life is going.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My girls are going insane for Christmas. Their letters to Santa are done we are mailing tomorrow. Their happiness is contagious.
I am always checking in on these boards they are my life line. No matter how well I am doing I need to contact to others that understand what I have endured
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
I'm so glad you check in. I've had some huge Christmas spirit this year too!! So weird, not much money to play with, but I'm already enjoying the holiday. :-)
I'm glad you are having fun too.
Lots of love your way,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
