I'm a very lucky person, but still fine tuning

[woundedfool]

a fait accompli

[woundedfool]

Legal side is complete, so now I am past tense divorced.

Still looking for any input from others who have completed the legal process, Another Standers input is appreciated, but anyone else have experience?

[woundedfool]

It's not uncommon for the WAS to suddenly change after D. Often they feel the burden has been lifted and there's no more pressure, so they don't see the LBS as the enemy anymore. So hope doesn't end at D, you just never know.

Another observation (AnotherStander was very correct), Her mood/demeanor seems far less tense. Seems that maybe the pressure has have seemed to have released with the actual legal efforts completed.

[woundedfool]

Been a while, since the legal process is complete I though I would check in.

Turns out there is/was a OM (don't know/or care if it was EA or PA).

She has told me she is involved with him as she enjoys helping him get his life back on track (he has a very checkered past... think drug/alcohol, stealing cars, armed robbery. close to 20 years in prison, recently paroled).

But her family and friends have told her in no uncertain terms that OM is not to be around them.

Back to me: I have been sticking to my 180's and GAL. Even picked up shooting... boy does firing off a few rounds at the range help blow off steam.

[woundedfool]

ETA:
Been a while, since the legal process completed. I though I would check in.

[FlyOnTheWall]

Wow, I guess it true about what they say in regards to "affairing down".

So the legal process completed means your divorced?

I'm sorry.

Have you started dating yet?

[Mimi00]

Welcome back. OM sounds....interesting. I'm sure taking care of him won't be so adventerous as time goes on.

It's wonderful that you have kept up with your changes and GALs and seem to have a great PMA.
Keep us updated on your progress.

[AnotherStander]

She has told me she is involved with him as she enjoys helping him get his life back on track (he has a very checkered past... think drug/alcohol, stealing cars, armed robbery. close to 20 years in prison, recently paroled).

Good grief! Well some women love a project, and he certainly fits the bill. She can't fix him but she doesn't know that yet.

Back to me: I have been sticking to my 180's and GAL. Even picked up shooting... boy does firing off a few rounds at the range help blow off steam.

LOL! Good stuff! I like to jump on a 2 wheeled motorized conveyance and sling it across the blacktop with extreme prejudice, same kind of release

[woundedfool]

So the legal process completed means your divorced?

Yes

I'm sorry.

Thank you, but don't be. While it is the path I never, ever, would have chosen. It has helped my life and my relationships in so many other ways.

Have you started dating yet?

Not in the looking for a partner sense. I just don't feel comfortable with that quite yet. Also, a little piece of me worries about diving into a rebound, and that never seems to work out well.

[woundedfool]

Welcome back.

Thanks!

OM sounds....interesting.

It could be a "Lifetime" movie. I actually toned down my post about the OM, as I would blow my anonymity.

I'm sure taking care of him won't be so adventerous as time goes on.

One would think. But time won't really go on. Since patterns tend to repeat, he will be back in prison in about 10 months (this is his 4th time out, he seems to re-offend in that time-frame).

Keep us updated on your progress.

I will. But I also want to stay involved to help others here, as this outlet was very helpful to me.