Good for you! It's tough to stay off FB, but it does make things easier if you can.
This is a great place to let out your emotions. I had a few rants of my own on here after seeing some of OW's posts.
I knew that as angry and upset as I was, I didn't want to share it with anyone I knew in person. Because if H had wanted to work on things, I wanted that option and didn't want the world to hate him because of what I'd said.
Feel free to vent and know that we're here for you.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
yeah, it's hard not to check FB but once you make up your mind that you aren't going to do it because it is of absolutely no good or healthy use to you, you'll feel a lot better. Why not unfriend or defriend or whatever her. Why keep her on your friend's list?
Whatisis, I have no idea. Stupidity. I think i'm just going to deactivate my account.
I am struggling with the fact that my kids do not know the reason why we are divorcing. I cannot let my kids grow up thinking that our marriage just stopped working, when she cheated on me multiple times. I want them to know the truth but without causing conflict between stbx and myself. This situation is so convoluted that i do not see a clear path. I was watching a video on Divorce Recovery and one of the main people on the video said it can take up to 5 years to get over a divorce. I'm sure this isn't completely true of all cases but I don't want to feel the pain I am feeling for that long. My roller coaster has slowed down but I see her and it speeds back up. I do not want to feel this pain any more.
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct
It's not stupidity, it's an attempt to keep a connection with someone that matters to you. Is it healthy to continue doing so is the next question. I think you know the answer. But why deactivate your account, why not just delete her and enjoy interacting with other friends.
There is no "set" time that it takes to get over divorce. The longer you have been married it does seem to take longer to heal. There will be set backs every now and again but they decrease in intensity as well.
My divorce will be final 5 years at the end of the month. I have had false starts thinking I was good only to find I had even more work to do. I am doing pretty well in relation to the divorce. Wouldn't want to go back if I could. I keep pretty busy with the kids and their issues. Especially as of late.
I would not stay friends with your WAW. It is just more pain. Why do that to yourself?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I really do not want to remain friends with her. i want to remain amicable. And I will be doing that for the sake of my children. I do not want contact with her other than to talk to my children or to talk about an issue concerning the children.
I've been doing better. My lows dont feel as low and they tend to be going away quicker. All in all prayer is my best friend right now.
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct
Unfriended her from fb...........I am hoping that this will start to make a change in my mental state. It was driving me crazy seeing her and how "happy" she is and thanking people for supporting her. ugh
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct
Glad to hear you are doing better. Sorry I haven't stopped by, I have been having some teenager issues to deal with. Still dealing with parental discussion fall out, but such as life as the primary parent.
My head hurts. Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I hope all is worked out with the kiddos. Doing okay. We had our initial status conference where she forgot all of her paper work.....this is what I'm going to have to deal with for rest of my life right? Anyways, i'm tired really really tired I haven't been sleeping and tonight is the night I change that. I just can't seem to find sleep when I should be. I think to much when I'm lying down.
stbx is tolerable. I don't have any desire to talk to her even about the things that need to be discussed. No anger with me just sadness. This [censored] guys it really really [censored]. I hate hearing her say "I gave you 11 years." What did I give you then a day? Oh yeah I'm not the one that cheated....multiple times. I'm not the one that doesn't show remorse....ugh Not going down this path. I'm better than I was a month ago. Started doing daily bible studies. And I'm praying a lot.
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct
Sorry to hear you are struggling. When I suggested meditation you said you pray. I would like to ask you to try a simple thing. When you are praying, also concentrate on the spot between your eyes. Have your eyes closed, and lift your eyes up slightly and act like you are trying to see through that spot. Continue your normal prayers while doing this.
It has helped me so much. Try it several times a day for a week and please tell me if it helps.
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
