Yup. Seems to be going ok, once I sat back and relaxed a bit about how busy he is right now. I will re-evaluate in a couple of months - he says this is a function of his busy season and family stressors (moved last week, caring for his mom, etc), but I will be interested to see if things actually do calm down - or if he's just one of those guys who is always in some kind of turmoil. For now, I am just considering the relationship a science experiment - observe and record. Right now I am experimenting with finding out how long it takes him to contact me when I don't contact him.
(Plus, I am curious to see his new apartment once he gets his furnishings in. I helped him paint the baseboards last week. I'm a little bit worried - my ex was a neat freak, if Mr. Big Lots shows signs of that too, I would be worried!)
NNP -- I wasn't saying you are a WAW. It's just that according to MWD, most guys your age are going to be trying to date women five years younger.
My case, after XW threw me out. Looking back, I shouldn't have left, I should have made her move. But I digress. After XW threw me out she started hanging out with her old best friend and her best friend's motorcycle buddies. There was a guy I thought was perhaps an OP. She said he was just a friend and XW told our daughters in summer of 2010 that not only would she never marry again, she'd never date again.
Now, a little more than a year later she is looking for love. She continues to look for greener grass.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
BA, you're right beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and personally I think 5'8" is a good height for a man.
kml I'm glad to hear things are going well.
CTH I understand that most men want to date younger, I don't take it personally. When I am ready to date I hope to find someone who is looking for me I spent too many years married to a man who treated me like I had no value. If there is ever some one else in my life I want to know he wants me and no one else.
Originally Posted By: ClingingToHope
Now, a little more than a year later she is looking for love. She continues to look for greener grass.
Probably more true than not for lots of walk-aways... sad really
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Today is a milestone. We closed on the last asset from our marriage. Now we own nothing together and there is only a tiny bit of debt remaining in both our names. Should be done with that by March.
Other than that tiny bit of joint debt remaining I am entirely debt free and have been since September. That is such an amazing feeling, I never want to have any debt ever again.
It's hardly worth mentioning but I doubt xh will ever know that feeling. The first thing he did post D was buy a $20K+ motorcycle and he is on his 2nd new vehicle in 6 months. When he pulled up in his latest new truck the only thought that went through my head was thank goodness I am no longer responsible for his debt!!!!! yee haw!
As one of the Real Housewives says "Diamonds aren't a girls best friend... Freedom is!" So true so true
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Yeah - debt-free is a good place to be, and it's nice to be in total control of one's finances. I still have a mortgage but am on track to get that paid off before I retire. I'm content to live within my means. And planning to increase those means!
I couldn't agree with you more NNP - being financially free and only responsible for your own obligations is very liberating! Congrats on getting your financial house in order and being rid of his!
I was almost debt free before I married H. It was good. Now 'we' have debt and 'he' has more debt. The 'we' debt is offset by assets which to me = net worth. I haven't quite decided where self worth fits in and ranks in all of that.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I spent too many years married to a man who treated me like I had no value. If there is ever some one else in my life I want to know he wants me and no one else. 