PON & Melting... you are missing my point. The point I was making is that this typically bugs me and this time I wasn't going to let it. I was posting about it, as I noticed a change in my feelings.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
its the latter of the sentance that should be credited. I posted how I normally felt vs. the next detaching stmt!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Im just saying... I realize this is where it bothered me, and decided to let it go (detachment)... er, at least I thought I was (until all these unecessary posts).
H just now sent me a picture of a chq we just received from the gov't, along with a smiley....baby step? (assuming this is sharing?)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Im just saying... I realize this is where it bothered me, and decided to let it go (detachment)... er, at least I thought I was (until all these unecessary posts)
Unnecessary posts because you aren't hearing what you want to hear? I completely understand why some of the folks that were trying to help you have decided to abandon ship. I really hope you find yourself in all of this. I wish you luck. As they say on Shark Tank, "I'm out".
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Thanks for stopping by Melting and offering your time... this is my thread and its just me journalling. I feel it was my first detachment or at least recognized detachment and wanted to share. Im not understanding when you say "hearing what I want to hear?" I was just posting MY feelings and PON was calling me out on it... I get it... Tx for the 2x4 PON!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Is it possible that many of you think I am hyper-focused because I have so much communication with my h? (way more than most on this board). I have been reading other threads where the h is still living with the w, and they post similar stuff like I do.
I truly feel part of my change, 180, detachment is to not be on egg-shells & stand up for myself. So, when I post about my communication with h, its NOT because its about him, but about MY interraction and trying to 180. I am posting for support on my 180.
Positives: -several baby steps that I can be happy about -still excercizing daily -able to eat, sleeping better -awesome things happening for my D, that I am able to enjoy -selling product (YAY!!) -large gov't cheque arrived today -lots of communication (h is not afraid to call/be with me)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
