I have been pretty busy these days but I am always stopping by and reading threads just haven't had much of a reason to update.
Things are status quo over here some good days, some great days and some not so good days.
Everything still headed to D. It does seem like his relationship with OW has cooled or at least she is not hanging out with my kids.
Some days I actually feel okay with being rid of my H. I just think he is such a weak weak man, that he wouldnt work on our issues. Sometimes I feel sorry for him. Other days I am sad for my girls. Other days I hate his guts.
I try to count my blessings.
I love you guys. Keep posting to your threads I am always reading and keeping tabs just sometimes dont have much to say.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Could you have two parties? One at your house without him? Just a thought.
Not sure if you were looking for a solution or just feeling the sad. It is terribly sad. Can't get past his own crap to do right by his kid. Ick. Ick. ICK.
I'm glad you are doing ok though. :-)
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Was thinking of you the other day, glad you posted
Your daughter's birthday is about her, not him. And while it wouldn't be right to purposely make him uncomfortable, it is not your responsibility to make him feel at ease either.
He made choices, now he has to deal with them. I believe it's called a reality check.
If he doesn't like that birthday idea, he can feel free to plan his own party. I'm sure it would be just SO much fun! (Insert saracastic voice here!)
Hang in there girl. You are one awesome mommy
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Hey B, have to say, I agree with everyone. She only gets to be this age once. And sorry he will feel awkward - his problem, not yours.
He could choose not to go to your house. I know that you are thinking it would be sad for your daughter.But I think she would love her party. And maybe he could step up and do something special with her.
Sweetie, do what you want for your daughter. You will be glad you did.
My D15's B-day fell on a Monday when W had her, I threw a kick-a$$ surprise party for her at my place on Wednesday when I had her. I guarantee she had more fun at my place two days later. The funny thing is when W dropped her off, she tried to come in. Nope (of course, I got no such invitation on D's actual birthday). Assuming Easter will be the same. We are coloring eggs Friday night and the bunny will make a special visit on Sat morning when the kids are at my house. Unworthy is absolutely right, do what you want for D, it will be special for her because you're he parent that cares more about her than yourself. The kids know. J.
Me42 W41 D10,D15 T25 M23 LYBNILWY 09/12 OEA 08/12(?)-ended? 01/13 Sep 01/13 I file 04/13 1rst D hearing 06/13 Currently in mediation
