Really hard day today - whilst my W has gone away to "think" or be with OM depending on which way you look at it, I am at home with our Son.
Don't get me wrong we've done some nice things; been out for lunch, football, played on computer etc its just that everything I do with him, it makes me so sad that my W isn't with us.
The truth is I can GAL and 180 all I want but it doesn't change the fact that I just miss her so much and desperately want us to be a family again. It just seems like that will never happen.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
Some days just plain suck. When I move right to the future, I really try to focus in the moment. Feel sad,but look at reality. You aren't D yet. Don't know if that helps, but it usually puts me up.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Some days just plain suck. When I move right to the future, I really try to focus in the moment. Feel sad,but look at reality. You aren't D yet. Don't know if that helps, but it usually puts me up.
It does help thank you. Actually it's the one thing that gave me hope - the fact that she had started divorce proceedings to get it all done ASAP and now she just wants to wait 2 years.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
Well, after my Wifes day of "thinking things through" she sent me a email:
" I have thought about this, our marriage long and hard and for a very long time. There is no point for me in going to any more counselling because for me our marriage is over and has been for some time, which i have tried to tell you and explain to you so many times. I know you find this hard to understand but I know it is the right thing."
No surprises really - same old stuff.
Unfortunately I had this email on the very day I found out my Dad has a matter of days to live so very upsetting.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. It's hard going through either of those things, let alone both at once. Just know that you can and will get through this.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
The worst thing is I'm devastated about my dad as we are very close - the hurtful thing is the only person I want to comfort me is my wife - and she wants nothing to do with me. Very hard to take.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
I am so sorry to hear about your dad! My thoughts and prayers are with you.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Thank you Tallula I appreciate your thoughts and prayers.
You know what's strange? My W was very close to my Dad and she's just brushing it all off like it doesn't matter at all. Honestly what has happened to her?
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
Well, after my Wifes day of "thinking things through" she sent me a email:
Wow, she gave herself one whole day to "think things through"? Good grief. It's only been 2 months since BD so don't read too much into anything she says right now.
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Unfortunately I had this email on the very day I found out my Dad has a matter of days to live so very upsetting.
Oh no, that's terrible!! My thoughts are with you, hang in there!!
