Back on this site help!!

[LisaLost]

Steve , it has been a long time. Super long drama I am looking forward to be out of soon. I was hoping to find you floating here somewhere. He had numerous other affairs current one he is living with since he left 3 months ago she is 25 he is 38. Once again she is different and his soul mate and I am garbage. I lost the strong Lisa I had become. Would love to get your advice sometime.

Love
Lisa

[LisaLost]

Oh yeah I am in Iowa now. Dubuque to be exact.

[MnSPD]

Lisa,

Fill me in on the last couple years. I remember seeing photos on myspace with you and the family (H too). Also remember your oldest being involved in baseball and H being very supportive of his efforts, actually being involved. Also remember the trouble H was in at the car dealership. Your Mom and sister also were there for you as family in the past. Being in Iowa, this may not be the case with the relocation. After that, my memory is pretty fuzzy.

So here you are, having lost the strong Lisa and distraught with another OW in the picture. Very understandable. When we mix emotions with trauma, our reasoning ability vanishes, as to be expected.

I've reviewed your thread and have to ask this question. What is your goal? Having been through this is your intention to save or to become strong, GAL and move forward?

This is about what you want not what your H wants, does, or says. Let me know your thoughts and we'll go from there.

And if you remember, patience, patience, patience.

Steve

[LisaLost]

Steve,

Thanks so much for responding. I think at this point I am thinking it's best to save myself. There has been countless other women. We now have 6 kids. I don't think I can do this anymore. He is being so cruel with this new girl. She is 25 a getting divorced for her h. She has 2 kids ages 5 and 3. He moved in with her after not even 4 months. I am typing this on my phone am will have my Internet and computer back Friday. I hope I will check in when it's easier to post.

How are things with you?


Lisa

[LisaLost]

Great, h called I answered like a dummy. He started to tell me that he feels really bad that he did love me and was in love with me at one time but that we just don't belong together. That he doesn't love me in a way to spend his life with me. He just thought I should know in case I thought I had a chance since he always came back every other time. This time is different Lisa. I am in love and we don't fight. She is fun etc.....


It still hurts. Bad

[MKB23]

((((Lisa))))

I'm sorry.

[Grateful]

I'm sorry.

[LisaLost]

Thanks,

It just hurts to hear those words and to know that I am nothing to him.

[2chiquitos]

First of all, YOU ARE NOT GARBAGE!! You're homework is to work on your self esteem. I suggest you do that quickly because your H's problem will and has done a number on you.

I have had only one OW. I don't need anymore but can only imagine what it must be like to have to go through all this more than once.

I hope you find yourself in all this. As MnSPD (aka Steve) asked you what are your goals?

[LisaLost]

Truthfully, and I feel I can be honest here. I have no idea what my goals are. You are right. Self esteem is a major issue. I don't want to seem helpless but I don't know where to begin. One day I am strong and the next well a meek woman.