She does have until the 1st so I can't do anything other than vent. She did say she would be out this past Wednesday. I did offer to help her pack and even carry stuff but she said nothing
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
it's just some more insanity...but at least you've seen it before at work (AND at home)
hang in there and don't forget to reach out to your d. Since we can assume she'll visit you at leat now and then (--- once she sees what your wife is going to live in, your d may rush home. Don't be shocked if that happens)
so ask her if she cares if you paint her room and if so, what color (or repaint it same color if it simply needs refreshing and she likes it). The point is to remind her that it's her home and she can have input into how her part looks.
Really, I would almost expect your d to join you at the house at some point this year. Be ready.
You say you "don't interrogate" your d anymore. Any other changes or improvements in the r with her?
I can't help but think this is way more traumatic on her than we are mentioning or seeing.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I don't know 25. I have talked to my D and says she is ok. She is very much like her mother not very expressive. I have gotten phone calls from the school and discussed it with her. But no calls in last two weeks. I know she talks to the guidance counselor and I have asked for up dates. I will do my best. Our R is pretty much the same.
On another front ex is loading up her stuff. I offered to help she declined. It is pretty strange and I can't leave cause I'm waiting for a delivery. Weird times.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I don't know 25. I have talked to my D and says she is ok. You are allowed to ask again, in a gentle AND OR funny way, maybe pretend you are excessively worried or that you "read it in a parenting magazine or 'Freaky Friday" the movie. But don't assume 1)she's just like her mom and 2) that it's healthy!
She is very much like her mother not very expressive. I have gotten phone calls from the school and discussed it with her. But no calls in last two weeks. I know she talks to the guidance counselor and I have asked for up dates. I will do my best. Our R is pretty much the same.
ever thought of just the two of YOU going to counselling? Yes your d and you?
My h had a lot of repair work to do with our kids b/c although WE were reconciled, you can't just assume the kids are alright with everything. I thought it helped but more importantly THEY did. Just a thought.
I know you have a lot on your plate for now and she'll need to time to adjust to even know "where" she is emotionally.
On another front ex is loading up her stuff. I offered to help she declined. It is pretty strange and I can't leave cause I'm waiting for a delivery. Weird times.
Good luck. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and the tunnel ain't that long anymore!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Ex moved last night. Took my D and the dogs. I think she'll be back she left her art table. Don't know how I feel yet. But it's time to start living again.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
