I am sure Gabe know how stressful all of this. Why don't you let him let him handle it? Give him more to do and see if he steps up. Maybe it is time for him to create his own job.
hugs, I am thinking of you. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hanging in there. I'm still shaking a little and nervous. A loss of any income spells disaster in my house so this is making me really sick.
Gabe is ok. He has some leads already so my fingers are crossed. He seems to be taking this loss better than the others he's had. I have a feeling though that has something to do with my reaction to it. I lifted him up and encouraged him instead of giving him any crud for it.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Well done, you're handling a horrible situation really well. Gabe will appreciate it. I'm not surprised you are feeling that way, I would too. You are strong!
I'm rooting for you that things will turn around really quickly x
Still nothing on the job front. A couple of interviews but they are notoriously slow getting back.
The finances are a shambles. All it takes is one missing paycheck and I'm sunk. The last of the money went out today....ugh!
My stomach is in knots for other reasons too. This coming Tuesday would have been our 19th anniversary. I've been trying to talk to myself about that day not being important anymore, it means nothing, he's here now...blah blah blah. It's not working. Every year it seems like that day gets harder instead of easier. WTH is that????? ARGH!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I"m so sorry about the financial stuff. Will Gabe be able to collect unemployment? Can he do work for anyone under the table? Maybe he could go to school and get some extra education that could help him get a new job in a different field - one that might open new doors for him. He really sounds depressed to me (but I'm not there of course) and something new can change everything.
There are jobs babysitting, walking dogs, pet sitting etc that can be picked up with one small ad. Something to tide you over.
But what is GABE doing in all this? How is HE trying to help the situation? This should be very telling.
And has he ever mentioned your anniversary - now or last year?
I'm praying for you, Mish. Praying for all the right things and the answers to come your way. Hang in there!
He has never mentioned our anniversary. I believe in his mind it was wiped out the day he left. My heart is still connected to him, forever. I can guarantee you that if he walked back out the door today I would not feel any differently in my heart. The best way I can describe it is that it's like my vows branded my heart and it won't be changed. Odd, I know, but those vows were spoken sacredly and that can't be undone.
Anywho....Gabe has a second job. He always has. It just doesn't pay enough to begin to make up the deficit. He is out every day filling out applications, he searches constantly online, driving around, etc. As far as school, he can't afford that! I don't know if he would want to do it anyway but there is no way to afford to pay for any schooling. I've been wanting to go back to school for years but I can't afford to do it. I'm already so far in debt that I can't even get a student loan.
No, he can't get unemployment because he was fired, not laid off.
I'm still looking for a second job also but hitting brick walls all the time. You would think I could find babysitting jobs or dog walking wouldn't you? Nope. Where I live, these people are bizzare! Their kids go with them practically everywhere and when they don't they do babysitting co-ops in their subdivisions. 75% of the homes in this city involve one stay-at-home or work-at-home person who takes care of their own dogs and they kennel them when they are away. It's the craziest thing I've ever seen!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Mish: That's good that he is being really Pro-Active about getting another job. Something will come together.
I do wish you could find a way to go back to school, though, since it is obviously important to you. I really don't know what to suggest, though.
Can you do book keeping? Assist with Resumes? Computer work for seniors who don't have the skills? There are many things you can do online with the skills you have.
