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Wow, lots of good stuff there. Thanks.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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wow zig thank you!!
I will look through it right now!

I love you guys!


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Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home
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I love lists! How's your day been so far? Mine, good ;-)


M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017
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I love that list! Those are things I wish I knew 40 years ago!

I want my granddaughter to know this!


M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing

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glad everyone liked it - i felt like i hit the gold mine yesterday when i found it and couldn't wait to share it with all of you smile

i had a good day - did spend a lot more time on the computer than i had originally planned - oops. need to get more focused with work, and go write my new goals list.

i'm a little sad tonight - s was not good on the phone - and i'm struggling with having to see it and not be able to do anything about it. will think about whether i will talk to h about it or not.

hope you are all well
zig


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M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"

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how old is your grand daughter? i was thinking i'm going to introduce some of this to s also


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she's only 9 but it's not too early, IMO. i think we are programed culturally and genetically to nurture. however, a lot of us do so to an extreme where we sacrifice way too much of ourselves, trying to make someone else happy and trying to be "good" (perfect).

that's how some of us got here (me). we didn't have boundaries and became co-dependent.

i want better for her and her little sister (2 1/2).


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H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

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H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing

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i agree with every word you wrote. i want better for s also and decided i'm going to start teaching him that - well, after I myself get it better!!


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What does this mean:

i'm a little sad tonight - s was not good on the phone - and i'm struggling with having to see it and not be able to do anything about it. will think about whether i will talk to h about it or not. ?


Me 57/H 58
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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Originally Posted By: scaredsilly
she's only 9 but it's not too early, IMO. i think we are programed culturally and genetically to nurture. however, a lot of us do so to an extreme where we sacrifice way too much of ourselves, trying to make someone else happy and trying to be "good" (perfect).

that's how some of us got here (me). we didn't have boundaries and became co-dependent.

i want better for her and her little sister (2 1/2).


Lucky kids to have you, SS, around. Your S too Zig. Sometimes I forget that what we are learning and how we are growing has the potential to impact everyone in our lives. It truly is amazing.


Me(f): 51 W: 41
DP:8 M:3 T:10
"W not happy" 7/11
D final: 8/13
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