Nice going Chatterbug! I didn't get my 10k in did another 5 and was going to carry on but my knee wasn't quite up to it.
I went a bit DIY crazy yesterday, sorting out my neglected under the stairs cupboard. After throwing half of the stuff away, gave it a good Hoover and mopped the floor.
Then I said to myself that bit needs a new skirting board, which I fitted along with new flooring and painted it all - didn't stop from about 2pm til 11pm, but it looks great!!
Only thing now is sorting out what's going back in there and moving some stuff to the attic - but it'll be a more useable space and will get a few things out of our bedroom (bonus).
I'm gonna see how my knee is later and try to do my 10k tonight.
Keep up your good work cutter, you are going hard at it again!!
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
The Saturday run was very hot. Then I helped move for 14 hours on sunday. Still feeling that. So no run this morning going to run tonight.
Congrats on the DIY project. It is nice to come here and talk about some accomplishments that we ourselves are completing. This week my main goal is to get 3 runs in and get ahead at work again. We have been short staffed so everyone is falling behind.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
I haven't really posted much lately about my sitch or my feelings towards it, been focusing on me since I managed to finally detach.
I didn't want to post anything because I wanted to see if my feelings would change over the last month or so.
I've posted many times stating what I would need my w to do to show that she was commited to working on our M, but the way I've been feeling lately I don't know if that would make me want to work on the M.
The longer this situation drags on of us basically being co-parenting roommates with our issues brushed under the carpet, more damage is being done to the floor (foundations of our relationship).
The pedestal that I held my w upon has been taken down, smashed and burnt.
I have come to terms with the versions of why our R was in a bad state and take full ownership of my failings.
I was prepared to forgive and to try and move on from my W's PA / EA.
What I can't forgive my W for is this continual lack of respect for me and her M vows, by continuing to maintain contact with the OM by dancing with him. She knows exactly how I feel about the situation and yet continues to disrespect me every Friday night.
To me it is clearer now than it ever has been, she has made her choice.
I have made my choice, to work and work and work on ME.
I'm in no rush to file or move out because of financial reasons and I love being with my kids.
I've got my teacher training, my kids, my family, my friends , my fitness, my GAL activities.
My life is full of good things and good people, I might have lost the love of my wife but I've found ME again
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
Yeah I have got a lot of personal growth to go through and I am looking forward to it.
The other day we got into a bit of an argument over a misunderstanding & I could feel it building & turning into an R talk.
The disagreement was ultimately about my W feeling like she isn't spending enough time with the kids on her own, with an undertone of 2 way criticism of my W not pulling her weight with the day to day running of the house & me not getting as much stuff in the house decorated / fixed as hoped for.
I stopped it dead, because I could see where this conversation was heading.
I just said, 'This situation is not ideal for either of us, but blaming each other isn't the answer, we need to talk more & be logical abouth these things. I've been on plenty of days out with the kids on my own this summer, you've got today & a few days off work next week, take the kids out somewhere & I'll get as much done in the house as I can'.
I asked her if she was ok with that & she said yes, so I left the conversation.
My W took the kids out a couple of times & I had a good clear out in our bedroom & decorated it.
The argument has been forgotten about & we have got on really well since.
The difference for me was that I wasn't hoping for any positive outcome or had any agenda that was measured by my W's reaction. I simply listened, acted & stepped back.
The rope was thrown to me, but I didn't pick it up
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
Definitely not the things that I'm seeing Did I think I'd see so instantly I found a note in my grandfather's coat When I read it out loud I got cold
'Cause he said:
I'm not complaining I was just saying I'm a man, I'm a lost one you see? Come down with me to a place We'll get clean And we'll meet with them eventually
You mean everything
I don't know much but a crutch is a crutch If it's holding you from moving on
I don't know what to do Not anymore Not anymore
And you Well you mean Everything
You mean everything to nothing You mean everything to nothing You mean everything to nobody but me
