Last week I had to give my L another 1500$. So far this D has costs me 7500$. And there is at least one more court date. Our landline phones were not working last month. I wasn't aware of it so exw and D hit the cell phones and got 440$ bill. I asked W if she mind helping with half she got really nasty and spewed. So I just said ok no biggie. So I fixed the phones at home but will cut the service at end of month and will cut exw phone cell phone plan. Was supposed to have done this 8/1 as agreed during mediation but thought I would give her more time. For some reason I think she is trying to push my buttons. But I won't fall for it. I only have a few more weeks of this. On a good note I'm off next week and have 3 job interviews.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I am so sorry that your W is being unreasonable, but you are a kind and strong man - good for you to let it go. You have a great attitude in all of this. And although I can feel your pain as I read your posts, I also see strength and growth.
I am heading this way soon, and I don't know if I'll be able to post about it - it seems so painful and sad. So thank you for opening up and sharing.
Good luck on the job interviews! There is something for you to look forward to - maybe a new job. And with the house, also new opportunities to make it your own home for you and your D.
Keep your chin up!!!
(((rick)))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
Thanks for the shout out Rick. Bug is right that sharp stick only hurts if they find a soft spot.
IDK if this fits, but I’ll toss this out anyway. My X still spews at every opportunity. I think it is evidence of her pain and crisis still affecting her. It isn’t about me or the person I am it is about her and the person she is. Thinking this way is a shield of sorts for me. It helps me cope and motivates me along my path toward my goals.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I just approved the draft for our divorce for next Tuesday. She will have 45 days to move out once she gets her share of the house. She should be moving by end of September. Gonna be a long month. Sad and happy. Think it's normal
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
My ex still spews at anyone and everyone. It started right before he left. He was one unhappy camper. All I can say is - once they're out - you CAN dodge the bullets. you don't HAVE to answer the phone or respond to a crazy text. If it's really bad - change your email.
I choose when to respond or to react to my ex. Took me a LONG time to get that. Recently he started freaking out on the hospital staff while visiting our son. Umm - in my opinion they were doing an awesome job. He does NOTHING for our son. And he told them he was also in charge. Umm - in charge of what? He's not even in charge of himself. LOL
Some of them are nuttier than others but that's the one thing the divorce can give you - separation - which is NOT always a bad thing.
Well today is the big divorce day. I signed the final yesterday and dropped it at my L's office. Don't have to be in court unless he can't get them out of the drop box. W is getting ready to be in court. She has to be there because her L is a procrastinator and didn't get the paperwork to us till last Thursday. I think I'm ok. Will update you guys later. Pray for us
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I did not attend my divorce day either. Good thing as my Mother died the day before. Oy vay - what a week!
It will be over. And sad. But it will get better from here on in.
Your divorce day is the same day as my Bombiversary. 11 years for me.
Thinking of you today.
Hug your kids. That's what I did on Divorce Day. I let them know that if I had never married their dad - I would never have had them. And they are my greatest joys!
