It has been a long haul. At the beginning, I never thought I'd still be here like I am. However, my W has not shown any movement back toward me, just the occasional interest and noticing my changes.
The good news is the changes were all for me. As a result of my situation, I believe God has used my situation to His glory. I have done a lot of things that would have been outside my comfort zone in the past. I have made a ton of new friends, and frankly, met a lot of amazing people.
I feel well positioned for the next relationship, whether it's with my W or someone else.
So if you're new here, realize this is a marathon and not a sprint and for me it's been an ultramarathon that started out as a sprint. Use this time to work on you. Do things you've always wanted to do that are outside your comfort zone. Work on becoming your best possible self. You will save yourself and possibly your M.
Yesterday, I had my first meeting with a L. I think it went pretty well. The L could relate to my situation. She has D'd and remarried. She didn't want the D. But she's one of us. She is happily M'd right now, too, BTW. Hopefully that gives someone some hope. It gave me some hope, anyway.
Last night after I got home, I walked into a house that was 85 degrees. Ugh! I think my A/C's days may be numbered.
My W picked up my S last night. Oddly enough, she just texted my S and had him come out to the car. There was no OM with her. Also, the previous night, my W had texted me asking if I had the title to the car and if I knew the radio code. In the past, I would have gotten that stuff immediately for her and also gotten some stuff I thought she might need. I texted her about 2 hours later and told her that stuff was probably in the folder for the car, and I could just give her the folder. Last night, she sent my S inside for the folder.
Usually she will come up to the front door. I hate to say it bothered me, but it did. My group leader last night at church suggested, though, she may be seeing a lot of things she likes in me right now, and me baptizing my S was a slap in the face for her. Therefore, she can't face me right now and needs some distance. Well, sounds plausible.
As for me, I am in a pretty decent place. I am ready to take the next step in talking to Ls and getting the paperwork together. It's just another step in the process, and we'll see where that leads.
Just wanted you to know that I'm still checking on you. Despite where this road leads you, you will never regret taking the high road, and that has been the path you've consistently chosen during your ultra marathon.
I am excited to see what the Lord has in store for you next! Hang in there, and know you always have a friend in Texas who is pulling for you.
Just wanted you to know that I'm still checking on you. Despite where this road leads you, you will never regret taking the high road, and that has been the path you've consistently chosen during your ultra marathon.
I am excited to see what the Lord has in store for you next! Hang in there, and know you always have a friend in Texas who is pulling for you.
Take care! Ncl
Thanks, ncl I am so grateful for having you in my corner.
What's amazing is my W is the only in the world that can make me like I'm not taking the high road. She will tell me I'm controlling, all I doing is stalling the D process and so on. Believe none of what you hear and half of what they do, right?
I, too, am very excited to see what the Lord has in store for me and for what He's doing right now.
My W texted me in the morning and told me she found a house that she fell in love with. She then proceeded to ask if I would consider refinancing the house early or she could borrow from her half of my 401k. What? Seriously?!?!? That's something like what I would do for my W if I'm happily M'd, but not for a W who wants to D me. I called the L I'm thinking about bringing on board and she just confirmed the obvious.
I called her in response. First off, I asked her about the car she's selling. Then I told I was not going to give her the answer she wanted to hear. She wanted to know why. I simply told her I wasn't comfortable and all that stuff should be down on paper before we do anything with it. I then gave her an update on the L situation. I think she's pretty ticked I'm bringing a L on board.
We then got into a discussion about the D. We know there's a lot we agree on. But we are at an impasse right now about who does the transportation for S for the handoffs. She wanted to split it down the middle. I'm of the opinion that she made the decision to move 30 minutes away so she can do the lion's share of the driving. Am I being unreasonable here?
OK, I'm going to balance some the junk with some good. GAL'ing activity of choice last night was a bike ride with the local bike shop. We had to dodge some storms in the area, but we managed to cover 35 miles and did some substantial hill work at the end.
She is happily M'd right now, too, BTW. Hopefully that gives someone some hope. It gave me some hope, anyway.
and so on. Believe none of what you hear and half of what they do, right? 
