DB Bootcamp - veroprado and AJM

[AJM]

That's great to hear. I think you are getting the hang of it and I'm glad to hear you are having a nice time. Keep up the good work!

AJ

[dbmod]

do you want this thread 'stuck' or is it ok to unstick?

[AJM]

I'm fine with unsticking the posts on both threads. The poster should chime in as well..

[2chiquitos]

I need help with the triggers.

For ex. he NEVER shaved his hairy chest and now he does. It irritates me every time I see it because it's information I'm not asking for but it's there! (I see him without a shirt on when we take S4 to swim class)

[AJM]

My suggestion is to take the triggers one at a time and deal with them. That worked for me, but it takes time...

AJ

[2chiquitos]

I think I'm getting a better sense of the whole detachment thing. I see things from as an observer. I am beginning to see the sitch as if I took a step out of the box and all these things are going on. Removing myself and allowing it all to happen but not playing a part in it nor allowing myself to get sucked into it.

How am I doing?

[AJM]

I think you're getting the hang of it

Keep that focus!

AJ

[2chiquitos]

H took S4 to the pool and I could tell he wanted me to go. H - you don't want to go? Me- uh no, I'll go next time

Before I woulda taken every single opportunity to do things as a family and now I can pick and choose. Yesterday yes, today no, tomorrow maybe...

[AJM]

Just be careful that you don't do that out of anger but rather because that's how you feel. That comes across to somebody who's looking

AJ

[2chiquitos]

When H brought it up today, I gladly agreed to go I wasn't upset yesterday. I wanted to stay home.