Yes, Brit, that's what scares me, too. The thought of starting over with someone new and all the "red flags" coming at me like javelins! I'm afraid that after this experience, no one would be good enough! ;-)
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
we got too wise about what we have to look out for.
that's a sign that we haven't completely gotten through this experience. we haven't yet relaxed into fully knowing an accepting people for what and who they are.
it will come
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
I see it completely different. I see it as my growth in that I can spot that instead of making concessions in my head (ie well that because she was the wrong girl....with the right girl he would have proposed sooner)
SS it doesn't scare me it makes me feel more empowered. I can see more clearly where I went wrong and what I want in a person. I find myself being less hung up on the old things: height, age, appearance and more about character traits. Of course there will be someone good enough because no one's perfect.
The biggest thing is trusting yourself to make the right choice I didn't before which is why I think I kept things fun, superficial, kept myself from being vulnerable. I'm not jumping into anything in the future! Being still is one of my favourite lessons
it made me sad to hear that you were scared to be open about your dates.
the whole purpose, i think, of this board is to get us to focus on ourselves, and to become more self aware, confident and strong. if that leads us and our spouse back into the M, that is great.. but we all know that does not always happen and that we are learning who we are in order to be okay no matter what....
it sounds like you are taking your growth and self awareness with you on the dates... and it is changing how you date and think about relationships.. sounds like more growth..
you are being okay no matter what..
((( )))
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
