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Originally Posted By: Mach1
I have been accused of being too 'cryptic' , mainly because I don't give all of the info to a poster. I want them to think about it, and come to that crossroad on their own.


Because you are always teaching people how to fish.

You don't like giving them the fish.

Of course if they don't learn how to fish then they go hungry.



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Just a note/reminder for those who have concerns



This is just a place for newbies to focus with someone on solutions for the amount of time they want to work together. It's an effort to draw out some folks as vets who have some wisdom and let the vet also stretch their skills.

It will work/help to the level of the participants putting in the effort.


It isn't an official 'program'. Just a place to focus on the DB skills.


Participate if you want to. Don't if you don't.


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Originally Posted By: Mach1
SG...

Since this is experimental, and a way to really focus....

One of the things that becomes hard for a 'vet' is when we speak in a language that the newer poster doesn't understand...

I have been accused of being too 'cryptic' , mainly because I don't give all of the info to a poster. I want them to think about it, and come to that crossroad on their own.

What about....

The newer posters can request a certain 'vet' that they really feel a connection to...

That way, we know that our words are coming through strong to them..

Just my opinion....




That's the BEST idea.

jks did that.

I only recommended a few folks, just to get the ball rolling.



Mix it up , change it up, request.....

Do what works for you.



I'm offering my skillset to zig to focus on some of the KLA goalsetting skills, etc.




But after that, zig might want to work with someone else on the same thign for another perspective or a different focus for another skillset....


Just an example.


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So should we go ahead and 'request' someone?


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I am not sure who is willing...


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Busting,

When you read other posters, who resonates with you?

Whose advice do you really understand?



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Hi cat04-

There are several but i would say LITB, bustorama ( I have only seen a few of his, but they got me), Accuracy, MrBond and 25.


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I haven't had anyone have any interest in mentoring me. Is there anything I should be doing?


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Jess, same as bo's question and cat's answer. Is there anyone who's advice / support resonates with you? If so, then certainly request them.

For the new members, if you make a request and there's a decline by the "vet", I would be sure it would not be intended to offend you. Some vets really are just too busy or would rather work with members as they can.

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Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
Jess, same as bo's question and cat's answer. Is there anyone who's advice / support resonates with you? If so, then certainly request them.

For the new members, if you make a request and there's a decline by the "vet", I would be sure it would not be intended to offend you. Some vets really are just too busy or would rather work with members as they can.


Makes sense. I'm not really sure.


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