Thanks breakdown. Do you think sleeping outside of my apartment sends a bad message?
I'm not sure about that one....I wouldn't do it, but everyone's sitch is different. If my wife spent the night at her brother's, hey, no biggy....a friend from work who is of the opposite sex? Well, that rubs me the wrong way. My wife's confused, and I think she'd have a serious issue with it if I did it....even if it was someone she knew. She might not know what she wants, but she does know our relationship is damaged and we're both in a fragile state....not the best time to be hanging out with the opposite sex.
So even though I am getting a life, that's probably not the best way? I mean, it's so uncomfortable being in the apartment and he wants to be alone anyways, so I mean wouldn't he want me to not be there?
Sd: what are your hobbies? What do you like doing? Focus on that. So if it takes you out of the apartment, great, if they are things you do inside, is there a group you can do it with?
Me& h + S M: 13 t: 14
H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my! I'm done. 12/12
"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba
My H was sending me "not wanting to be there at home with me" messages in January '12. I made a plan to get out of the house. I signed up with a gardening class from the county on one evening, fitness boot camp on two evenings and swimming at a local comm. college on a fourth evening.
It felt terrible like I was getting booted out of the house, but it gave us both some breathing room, got me some exercise, and I met some new people.
No one can tell you about where to spend your time or nights. But maybe just think about your goals and how you would best get there. (is this action bringing me closer to my goal or driving me farther away? Is there a better action I can take?)
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Well, I am doing activities out ot the house. In going to a vegan meetup tomorrow and will be going out in a friends boat this weekend. I just wasnt sure how my husband would take it knowing I'm sleeping at a boys house.
