We lost the spark. How do I live with this guilt?

[labug]

"I'm fine, thanks."

His anger is his problem to deal with.

One other thing, your H can't really get rid of your stuff without your consent.

You should consult a L.

[sophiedaphne]

Omg, and now he's even calling me! I didn't answer the first time but I feel like I should at least let him know at some point that I'm safe? Someone who knows better than me... How do I handle this??

[labug]

Let it go to VM and you can answer in a few minutes after you get control of yourself.

[sophiedaphne]

Oh labug I just saw your post. Thanks! I'll keep it simple. We had talked about selling the Wii for awhile actually so I'm not even that upset about it. Just shocked it's happening. I called a lawyer for a consultation through work yesterday and am waiting to hear back today.

[sophiedaphne]

I texted him, "hi I'm fine! Thanks" and he saw it and read it and didn't reply, which is fine. Why would he care where I am if he doesn't want me anymore?

[sophiedaphne]

Is it a bad idea for me to sleep elsewhere right now?

[Breakdown]

I texted him, "hi I'm fine! Thanks" and he saw it and read it and didn't reply, which is fine. Why would he care where I am if he doesn't want me anymore?

I think that's the perfect response. Not only did you tell him you're fine, the exclamation point makes it seem like you are doing great, which will probably make him wonder why....and as he gets interested, he may pursue some to try to figure it out. Just don't backslide when he does. Keep it up!

[sophiedaphne]

Thanks breakdown. Do you think sleeping outside of my apartment sends a bad message?

[labug]

SD, you really need to stop living in his head. You won't be able to figure it out. You will go crazy.

Concentrate on you and what you're doing.

Did you get the book Codependent No More?

[LIO]

I second Codependent no more.

Why do you need to leave? I wouldn't. Just GAL!