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[mishka422]

Thanks guys! I actually ran out of day yesterday so didn't get my hair cut yet. My stylist is off today so ill have to work it in later.

[mishka422]

WOW! I feel so blessed! So many birthday wishes in the alt and here. Thank you all so much!

Saturday was lovely. Had a deluxe spa pedicure (leg massage, cooling gel, salt scrub and a shoulder massage all included....heaven!), went to lunch, the dollar store (love that place!), Ulta, DSW, and Charming Charlies. Ultimate girl day! Yesterday I went to church and came home and did absolutely nothing the rest of the day! When I say nothing I mean NOTHING. It was blissful! I had a pretty bad headache from an allergy (the wind was howling and blowing all kinds of stuff around) but other than that it was great.

I had a moment of agony yesterday at church. I had to circle the next age group on my attendance card! LOL

Gabe has been very attentive toward me but also moody. The swings worry me a little as this was the pattern before. I'm going to have to casually work it into conversation and gauge his response. It could just be because he's been working a lot and is tired. We'll see.

I took 4 days off from the gym and I know I'm going to pay for it today. Back to work tonight! I need to push my cardio up and I can't decide if I should increase intensity and shorten time by 5 minutes or increase time but maintain intensity. Suggestions?

[BeginningAgain]

Mish,

Belated birthday wishes to you! Sounds like you had a great weekend and birthday. It is good to pamper yourself every once in a while.

Regarding Gabe. Have you affirmed the extra attention he is giving you? Make sure he knows you verbally appreciate it. As to his moodiness, why not be just direct with him and say "Hey you seem a little tense and stressed lately - is everything ok, or is there anything I can do to help?"

On the exercise front, instead of decreasing, or increasing the exercise time, maybe try to work in some interval training. Do 5 minutes at a pace and incline which is above what you are used to and then do 5 minutes of recovery at a much slower pace. It will help you build up endurance.

BA

[mishka422]

Thanks BA! It was a great weekend for sure.

Yes, I tell him how much I enjoy him and make sure to give back the attention. We're more connected in that way than we ever have been. Using the direct approach with him is usually a recipe for a shutdown. He feels confronted even if I'm sure to phrase it so he knows I only want to lend him an ear. He's told me this several times in the past and I respect that. It's a FOO issue with him. Working it in to a conversation seems to be more comfortable to him so I'm going to stick with that.

I do interval on the bike but can't seem to do it on the treadmill because of a bad tendon in my right ankle. Maybe I'll try to do interval on the elliptical though. I hadn't tried that yet. Thanks!

[mishka422]

Whew! The elliptical kicked my sorry rear end last night! I'm so sore....ugh! It's a good sore though. Hopefully I can stretch it out enough to do some more tonight. If not, it will be tomorrow.

Thanks for the ideas!

[MichelleLT]

Good job on the workouts! Intervals definitely kick my butt too!

Glad you had such a fun birthday! Sounds like you are doing great. So awesome about the gift cards!

(((Michelle)))

[mishka422]

Well, I tried the bridesmaid's dress on. Is horrified too strong a word? UGH! I just keep telling myself it's only one day that I have to be embarassed.

Lots of goings on in my head these days but I just keep pushing it aside and trying to focus on my short term goals. It doesn't help my sleeping at all though. Since I push it all away it comes back in my dreams and wakes me up. I end up wide awake for several hours in the middle of the night and that is definitely not doing me any good! I'm thinking I need to break out my journal again and just write it all down. Maybe it will get it out of my head enough that I can sleep.

We'll see.

[MichelleLT]

It is just one day at least.

Why do bridesmaid's dresses always seem to be horrible? It's like there's a rule somewhere lol.

Break out that journal! Lying awake is not a good option.

[mishka422]

I've been having an ongoing battle in my head and heart between staying home and saving money or going to a family wedding in Florida this coming weekend. My cousin's daughter is getting married and a large portion of my family is going to be there from the west coast. I want to see them so badly but I need to save money for my trip to CA for my BFF's wedding in August. I think seeing my family has won out over the money issue but I'm going to have to scramble big time to replace what I spend before August. What decided it for me was that my one remaining aunt out of my mom's 4 sisters and 1 brother is the grandmother of the bride and will be there. She's 76 and in ok health for her age but you never know. I'd like to see her before I lose the opportunity.

So, Friday I'll be driving to Destin, FL. It's about 5 hours and I'll be alone so pray I make it without drifting off the road! LOL. It will be fine, I've done it before. There will loud music for sure!

I'm nervous about seeing my family. I look miserable and feel the same way so it's going to take maximum effort to put on a show for them. Hopefully the occasion will make it easier.

[SunFunOne]

Hey MIsh,

Good for you. That was the right decision. I doubt you will EVER regret it but I'll bet you would have if you didn't go.

I miss Florida right now. I'll be back in about 6 weeks. Travel can do wonders for you - even if it's a short time. Change of venue. A distraction.

Go through your closet and try on possible dresses. Choose one that flatters you the most and makes you feel comfortable. Splurge for a new lipstick - use foundation and a blush if you look tired. Fix your hair special. If you go the extra mile (at little or no cost) - you will be amazed how much better you will feel about yourself.

Now - leave your worries on your doorstep. You can make a promise to yourself that you're going there to enjoy the wedding, wish the bride and groom well and just have a good time with your relatives. I will bet they'd be happier not talking about your troubles either. And if they ask - just tell them you're "moving forward" and "optimistic" that things are going to get better.

Trust me on this, Mish - it is the way to go.

August is still a way's off. You might be able to make further cuts on a few things and make that work too. But for now - concentrate on having a good time. 5 hours is not that far.

Hugs!

Barb