KD I viewed your input as trying to set her expectations and prepare her for the possible outcomes that are beyond her control, which is stuff that suxx that she will have to deal with possibly. That's worthwhile but not what she was looking for at the moment.
One of the things I've noticed here is sometimes people aren't ready to hear some things until later. And sometimes people want to share their hard earned wisdom where it isn't exactly called for. Either way, there's value in the dialog.
Good practice for managing temper at the very least.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I appreciate everyone chiming in. If I didn't I never would have posted my issue.
AD - I think you are right on some level. I didn't disagree with anything KD said about the control issue. It's not that I wasn't ready to hear it, it just wasn't my primary concern at that moment. Lord knows, I know I can't control H's relationship with OW, or SS's soon to be relationship with OW. Half the time, I feel like I don't even control me. LOL I just wanted to some feedback on whether to bring the issue to H or not.
