"You are the moth my friend... choose the moon... not the flame... only you can do that... and you are not helpless... unless you want to be... because it serves you...
Love this ^^^^
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
KD give some ideas to google. I think it is a great idea. Yes my W is an expert at pushing buttons. She even threw a new dig in last night about me and a friend that had a falling out. She said I could see why he wouldn't want to be friends with you. I just said we are reconciling as we speak W. But she is a real pro you have this right. arent they all. I wish i could be less reactive and the funny thing is i have time to prepare for it and still failed
Also final question. Do you think W realizes after these episodes of rage that she is wrong. I know she would never admit it but do you think WAS's know they are out of line when they are spewing this stuff out of her mouth. Seems the next after she calms down a little and not so upset.
Net- I haven't read all your posts but many of your recent ones. Sorry about your tough time.
I'm not as huge of a proponent as some of the vets on here with sacking up/manning up but I think you need to stand up for yourself and set some boundaries.
I would not allow my w to verbally attack me as you suggest your w is doing to you.
Have you tried to set a boundary regarding this and what is the consequence if she doesn't respect it?
When she gets on you. Just look at her dead in the eye and say that you will not be talked to like that anymore. Say it flat with no emotion but in a way that she knows you mean business. And then just walk away. No matter what she says after, just keep walking. You can't let your anger get to you.
No sense letting a crazy person make you crazy.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
My emotions keep ping ponging every day on just giving her what she wants a D. I almost think the only thing holding me back is the kids and that isn't right.
