Ben, thanks for the encouragement. Things are going very well, thanks! We are what I think piecing our R back together now. we are doing the daily dialogue and keeping up with the post-session schedule. Getting her to Retrouvaille was the best thing I could have done, because she is actually trying to work with me now!
We are not where I'd like to be, but I have hope we will soon! I have decided to trust her and she knows that so that and the dialogue is benefiting us. It really is like we're almost starting over again. I am trying to just be as kind as positive as i can towards her and I think her faith in God is carrying her into working with me to restore our M. She has made many small changes in her attitude in the past 2 weeks since we went. It's been powerful to say the least.
Taking it day by day, but just keeping busy so haven't posted much due to it going well and I want to keep that momentum.
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
That's awesome man! Very happy for you. It's amazing what can be done when both parties are working towards a common goal.
My MC told my W and I he could be the worst MC in the world, and our M would work if we both wanted it to.
I wrote my W a hand-written letter recently, and she should be receiving shortly. If anything comes of it, maybe we could attend RV ourselves. While I'm sure it's not the magic pill, it sounds to have quite a decent response.
Keep doing what works! Slow progress is still progress! Good luck bud.
M:28 | W:28 | T:4.5 | M:2.5 | No Children EA1 Uncovered: Jun 2011 EA2 Uncovered: 2011-09-29 S: 2011-09-29 I'm moving on: 2012-05-08 My story: http://bit.ly/K3ttPM
Still making progress step by step. Yesterday we attended post-session 2 and have been continuing dialog daily. We are still staying away from heavier stuff, but that will come in time.
It's almost like we're dating again, just with all the history behind us. I'm pretty confident we'll reconcile fully at the end of this road and be stronger for all this--that is the good I see out of this mess!!!
As I look back on the last 5 months, I realize that I took this time to grow more than I EVER have in my life. I feel confident about myself there and am becoming the man that "any woman would be a fool to leave." That makes me feel good.
W and I still have a long way to go, but we've talked a lot lately that our family is #1 priority, and we both want a stable, loving home for our family and we're working towards that. So knowing that we're on the same page and share the same faith gives me confidence in us.
Don't get me wrong, it's still HARD at times, but I try to focus more on positives and things I control, so that gives me peace, that and my trust in the Lord.
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
Jlove - Thanks for keeping us posted on your progress. It sounds like you are doing really well with what is obviously a lot of worthy hard work. Your faith is certainly a source of strength that allows you to persevere.
Your updates are encouraging to many of us still struggling to find a way towards reconciliation.
Keep up the good work!
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
Thanks 2tp! I remember wanting/needing to hear positive stories when I 1st started lurking here, so I'm trying to blog my trials and tribulations to help/encourage others in any way I can.
Yes, without my faith, I am confident that my life would have self-destructed in many ways and many times over the past 6 months. Even with it, it still almost did at times. My faith will keep me on.
Prayers out to all of you in DB land tonight!!!
J
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
Still keeping up with dialogue and moving forward day by day. W does seem committed to working on R, so we march on.
Besides a lack of much physical intimacy, although she has never been the type to pour it out, I'd say we're super. We are still learning and growing, so I think we'll get there. She knows that intimacy is important to me.
On to week 3 post session.
Peace to all of you. J
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
It sounds like you are doing great! Keep up the great work!
I'm sure you've mentioned this before, but how did you get your wife to go to Retrouvaille? I'm just curious...
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
