Wow, thanks Starsky, I wish I could say I came across that realization easily, but unfortunately not
I also wish I could say I've figured out how to walk that line -- I'm getting there. Like Denver, I was too far on the strong and independent side, and then after the bomb swung too far on the warm and fuzzy side. I do feel like I'm centering in on it, and the closer I get the better I feel.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
warms the soul to read the INTIMATE thoughts of good men,
and to see the feedback and witness their taking it all in.
it's a nice thing to see.
thanks Denver
and as my Brooklyn BIL would say "and to the rest of you's all, thanks to you's too!"
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Wow, thanks Starsky, I wish I could say I came across that realization easily, but unfortunately not
I also wish I could say I've figured out how to walk that line -- I'm getting there. Like Denver, I was too far on the strong and independent side, and then after the bomb swung too far on the warm and fuzzy side. I do feel like I'm centering in on it, and the closer I get the better I feel.
I think an important thing to remember to is that we own our own part.
like... I can't expect Cori to make me feel beautiful and worthwhile and happy etc I need to feel those things on my own 1st
his job is then to REMIND me that I feel this way
a sappy guy can't do that because he is too needy himself a super independent detached guy can't do that because he doesn't think I "need to be reminded
