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Best effing post yet. Thanks so much for sharing. This made a difference...


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Thanks for the updat Denver. I plan to read through your threads this weekend.


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Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
Thanks guys. There will be no more boundaries or lines drawn in the sand by me. My W knows my boundaries.



Yes, she does. But does she know the consequences for crossing them? Does she believe them?


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She knows. And I believe that she believes them.


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Originally Posted By: RoRoinMD
Thanks for the updat Denver. I plan to read through your threads this weekend.


You will LOVE the toilet episode! LOL


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^^^^^
Yeah.. it was the HOT story here at DB high. wink

Glad to hear that you're still fighting Denver and that you are setting up/maintaining healthy boundaries with your w.

Keep on fighting.. keep on loving.

Keep on Keeping on!


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Originally Posted By: Brian in Hville
Originally Posted By: RoRoinMD
Thanks for the updat Denver. I plan to read through your threads this weekend.


You will LOVE the toilet episode! LOL


Oh yeah Brian!! Good times.


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I'm like 5 threads in on Denver's sitch and their are what, 11 more?? This is some work reading all these sitch's trying to learn the intricacies of DB'ing and how to become the best person you can be.

But it's well worth it. I'm not reading anything here, don't want to spoil it, lol. Thanks Denver!


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Enjoy sayitaintso! Lots of cliff hangers and character development... just like any good horror movie! smile

Thanks for the warm wishes Val!

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Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
Thanks guys. There will be no more boundaries or lines drawn in the sand by me. My W knows my boundaries. It scared her when she crossed that boundary in January and she saw that my attitude was apathy... that I was done. I also believe that she is worn out by her own indecision over the last 15 months and is ready to make a decision and actually try.

I believe she is trying. There will be some contact I'm sure because he isn't done pursuing her. But she is also beginning to see that as manipulation on his part.

I'm done trying to force this. What I am doing is to be loving, understanding, and trying to hold her hand as she works her way through this and moves towards emotional growth and healing for herself.

I am good as long as I continue to see signs that she is trying.

But then again, what the f*&k do I know?! LOL

Denver




I love this post Denver, I'm an utter newbie here & was lucky enough to have a comparatively short marital explosion but I totally empathise with pretty much every word. If nothing else this experience has given you wisdom, evidenced here. Sending you good luck & good karma from across the pond. ND.

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