Snodderly, CW, SA, Cadet, Antonia, MHL, Eric, Irma and Kissak Thank you and all of my other DB friends for your ongoing support, advice and your words of encouragement...you all helped me so much through this most difficult journey of my life and I will be forever grateful to you all.
I loved my H more than words can describe, I loved him through good times and the not so good. He was the love of my life for 38 years and I thought that it would be forever. I couldn't imagine ever loving anyone else.
This painful journey gave me the opportunity to re-examine my life, re-discover myself and...to love myself first...and for that I'm thankful. I'm embracing my new life, new love, new experiences and a new start. My H is not who he used to be, and may never be again....The choices he's made in the past 2 years and continues to make have impacted the way I feel about him and made me question if I could ever let him back into my life....and into my heart. Only time will tell....
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Hi Mila! Glad you are still going strong and happy.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Greetings everyone, just checking in and reading how is everyone doing.
Thank you BeingMe for stopping by and I hope that you are holding up well. I wish you the best and hope that you'll find peace and happiness soon.
And thank you Jack for your comment. You are right...I know that what my ex could offer me now is NOT good enough. And at this point even if he truly wanted to reconcile and said and did all the right things I'm not sure if I would be willing to try....but who knows...never say never, right?
As for an update...I'm doing great, considering that I'm moving in a week LOL. Liquidating everything that I can't take with me and packing...not fun, but looking forward to being in my new place.
Other then that nothing is really new...my new relationship is going wonderfully well...it's been almost 5 months now. My ex is still with OW but doesn't look like there is much happiness there judging from what I hear from OW's H and seeing what my ex is like. And yes our business (I should say his now) is now barely alive. I'm pretty sure that it will not survive...And maybe that will be a good thing...it may help my ex to finally hit the bottom and face himself.
Going to bed it's very late.
All the best to all of you
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Glad to see how great you are doing!! Keep moving forward!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Packing to move, liquidating AND a new relationship. Between packing and liquidating, I don't even have a new relationship with my washing machine. To tell the truth, I'm not the best "liquidator" there ever was, either. ON OUR NEXT SEASON OF HOARDERS . . . . . . .
Seriously, happy to hear you are doing so well Mila.
Hello everyone, It's been a while since I posted. First of all I apologize for not thanking MHL, Kissak and Punkin for their posts to my tread for so long...thank you, all of my DB friends have a special place in my heart...you played a big part in my journey through the biggest upset of my life.
I just wanted to post an update, maybe it will help someone to see that life could be beautiful again.
It's been 6 months since my last update. I'm doing just great I'm very happy and content with my life. I wake up with a smile on my face every morning. I'm very much in love with my sweetie...it's been 10 months and its wonderful...I feel very lucky that I'm able to experience this kind of love again. I feel loved, appreciated and spoiled by him and he makes me smile every day.
As for my ex...I hardly ever think about him...the pain is boxed away...somewhere deep inside and I just don't go there anymore...My Ex is still with OW...he keeps an apartment here, but mostly lives with OW in her town. Flies in about once in 6 weeks, sees daughter couple of times and flies out again...
Daughter reports that he is still angry and often seems depressed and sad. He spent Xmas and New years alone as OW went away by herself. When I have contact with him (not often) he seems happy to see me, tries to start conversations, has a huge grin on his face like he is happy to see me, asks about my family and tries to be friends. He even gave me a Christmas present. I'm courteous, but not interested in friendship with him. After I turned him down when he asked for the last reconciliation, he doesn't try anymore. He knows that I'm happy in my new relationship and even met my BF. At one point my ex made a statement to me "You look so happy with him, I guess I did you a favor"....I could have slapped him for that. I loved him so much...for over 30 years...and I gave him 2 years to muddle through his MLC...I gave him so many chances...now it's too late, he has lost me.
My ex did not file for a divorce and never talked about it and I'm thinking that I will have to do that myself.
That's it in a nutshell, hope everyone is doing well...love you all.
Mila
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