Good day so far listening to some Slipknot and cleaning the house to get things ready for the wife to move out on Monday. This place has needed a good cleaning for a long time. Happy New Years to everyone out there.
M40 W33 S5 D3 Together 10 Married 6 Bomb 12/8/11 Filed 12/27/11 Moved out 1/2/12
Went to friends party last night and had a good time which surprisingly didn't involve too much alcohol. Came home around 1am and was ready to crash so I took my sleeping pills which only knocked me out for about 6 hours. Now I'm gonna go for my first "run" in over 7 months and get attacking some of my goals for the year such as attending church at least 75% of the time and becoming a member of the church we have been attending for years. Hope everyone has a terrific 1st day of the new year. Using the LRT when wife gets back from her night out with her friends will be tough but I know tomorrow she moves out and we go over the divorce papers. I think there are going to have to be some changes made in those that might set her back a bit.
M40 W33 S5 D3 Together 10 Married 6 Bomb 12/8/11 Filed 12/27/11 Moved out 1/2/12
Went for a run today and then headed off to church. Met my parents for breakfast then headed home to wait for the W to bring kids home. She was not there yet and when I called sounded very hungover. She eventually got up and brought the kids home about 2 hours late after she received a phone call from her mom. Grandparents and I took the kids rollerblading and then headed home to relax. Wife thinks she was drugged last night as she has been in bed all day and said she feels terrible. Have not shown much concern for her today since she got home but focused on kids and my parents. Pretty good day so far.
M40 W33 S5 D3 Together 10 Married 6 Bomb 12/8/11 Filed 12/27/11 Moved out 1/2/12
Took my son for a run this morning and he made it. Not bad for a six year old. Wife is dropping kids off at the sitter and then heading home to pack up. I have so much to say to her but I know it will only fall on deaf ears but I think she was taken back yesterday when I asked what the plan was for today. You start looking into everything for meaning when there probably is none. I see this as a choice of three paths we can take. 1) Together and rekindle what is missing if she were only willing to try. 2) & 3) we go our separate ways and do whats best for our kids and maybe our paths cross later on and this nightmare becomes a learning lesson as to how we both can become better people. Just some thoughts while I wait for her to come home and also go through the divorce papers today. God this happened so quickly....
M40 W33 S5 D3 Together 10 Married 6 Bomb 12/8/11 Filed 12/27/11 Moved out 1/2/12
Continue working on improving yourself, not as a way to get your wife's attention but to be a better person. To detach means we realize we are powerless over others and their decisions.
Thank you for the definition, labug. It provides great direction.
Watching her pack her things is really hitting me hard right now. So many little issues that grew into something she feels like she can't handle anymore just really depresses me to see someone I love so much just give up and quit.
M40 W33 S5 D3 Together 10 Married 6 Bomb 12/8/11 Filed 12/27/11 Moved out 1/2/12
Greg, so sorry that you are going through this. FWIW, that she has given up does not mean that you must. Stay positive. Be optimistic. Work to GAL for you. Good luck, my friend.
Finished DR a while back and have been struggling to get through DB. I have set some personal goals for this year and know I'm going to be better off for all this but it's just the roller coaster of emotions that all of us LBS feel. I hope the time apart helps her to see things differently and maybe having her back on her Wellbutrin will help with any depression she is feeling.
M40 W33 S5 D3 Together 10 Married 6 Bomb 12/8/11 Filed 12/27/11 Moved out 1/2/12
