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The ironic horror of his daily reality is much richer than any demise I envisioned for him (I envisioned many). He believed himself to be of such intellectual superiority to others that he could use any child for his sexual and psychological pleasue with impunity. He is now surrounded and controlled by those of dramatic intellectual inferiority who abuse him for their sexual and psychological pleasure and affirmation.

Karma baby, Karma.


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Indeed Karma.
It's just so unreal he's had so many opportunities to ruin so many little lives and was working on ruining more!


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I just got home from the prison (again).

Request for parole denied. He stays (for now) and we have been told this means he probably will never be paroled. His release date is July, 2028.

I prepared a statement and fought through tears to read it to the board but i feel it was worth the pain.


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If one can find any good in this whole sorid mess...

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we have been told this means he probably will never be paroled. His release date is July, 2028.


It is that.

Your pain I am sorry for, I hope you can take comfort in the idea that it was worth it, that your statement helped to keep in prison, unable to affect anymore children.

I wish you peace sleeper.



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Thanks Jack.


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God Bless and keep Sleeper

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Thanks figgeroni,

GOD bless all us LBSes. Each and every one.

In some ways it was surreal. His parents who financed his almost two-year defense that ground us down and destroyed our marriage in 2002-2004 were there. I think his father has Parkinson's Disease now as evidenced by a hand tremor. His mother's face seems frozen in a perpetual state of sadness. I almost feel sorry for them.

There was no lawyer present on his behalf although I fully expected one (the same one at the trial) to be present. A little piss ant piece of a preacher (my apologies to all and I will refrain from mentioning the denomination) was there and spoke on his behalf. That preacher's statement was the most infuriating and unanticipated nuance as he opined how rather than weakening the perp's parents marriage, the pedophile's time in prison had instead strengthened it and there was now a stronger love there to embrace, support, nuture and heal the pedophile if only the parole board would see fit to grant parole.

The one thing that is now confirmed by X's comments today and my own realization is that what the pedophile did to our daughter combined with the two-year court ordeal destroyed our M. There are some aspects of the actual breakup that fit the mlc profile but the marriage was already dead. The pedophile, the slimebag defense attorney funded by his affluent parents, our church that abandoned us, and the bookeeper we trusted who literally embezzled every dime we owned while we were distracted killed it. X mentioned three of those four today.

It was that "perfect storm" as the counselor described it a couple of years ago.

If there was an mlc it was only the spark to a fuse that had long been set.


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I'm glad he will be stuck there. I'm sorry it was such an ordeal.

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I overheard my kids talking this weekend....

One asked the other:

"If it was the end of the world and you had to decide to be with mom or dad who would you choose?"

"Dad. He'd take care of us." The second answered

"Me too." The first responded

This made me very pleased at first as I have sought to be the parent I once wasn't for my kids but at the same timeI felt sadness as they shouldn't have to choose which parent they would prefer to be with at "the end of the world."

During bedtime prayers tonight I had an insight. DD prays every night vrt emphatically to not have any "bad dreams." Following the parole hearing and review of the effects of it all I now know to what dreams she is specifically refering.


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Sleeper,
It has been a long time. How are you doing?


M: 16 years
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I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D

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