75 Days

[Denver_2010]

Denver.....
PLEASE don't use SS to get information about W or OM. You know better than this.

It wasn't as bad as it sounded. Fairly typical questions for me to ask SS. I just listened to the answers a bit closer than usual.

Thanks for the encouragement and ideas CS.

Appreciate it as always.

BITS
Denver

[Denver_2010]

Denver,

Counsellor,

You have a client to think of. Is this a criminal trial in which a man's life or liberty are at stake? Or is it merely someone's money and property at stake?
EITHER WAY...you must

Stop the obsessing about W, and the %^&* OM, who does not matter,

and do whatever it takes to get your head in the game...NOW.

You can always re-schedule the full resumption of obsessing & stalking and self inflicted misery, all you want, AFTER the trial....

Your last sentence made me laugh 25. Thanks!

You don't want to know the details of my trial... criminal though. I will get it together. I always do. Besides, it is a case that I've been preparing for 6 months or so. It's just the focus and the details that I need to get going on here soon.

Thanks as always 25!!

BITS
Denver

[25yearsmlc]

Denver,

I did Criminal Defense law for 3 years...well, 34 months, but who's counting?

I had looked forward to having innocent clients, and snatching them from the jaws of injustice. Unfortunately (or not, depending on your perspective)

most of my clients were guilty AND got convicted...so eventually I moved on...I can very well imagine your case and its' "dramatic" appeal.
ANYHOW,

so, today you were in touch with some deep pain (& FEARS galore) and engaging in major distraction. It's a fairly minor backslide.

Welcome to the human race.

You're one of the cognitive elites, so don't beat yourself up too much. I have a feeling in a year or two, I'll come back here and you will be at peace. Heck, you might even be what you'd call "Happy". Call it women's intuition, but This, I know.

[Denver_2010]

so, today you were in touch with some deep pain (& FEARS galore) and engaging in major distraction. It's a fairly minor backslide.

Welcome to the human race.

You're one of the cognitive elites, so don't beat yourself up too much. I have a feeling in a year or two, I'll come back here and you will be at peace. Heck, you might even be what you'd call "Happy". Call it women's intuition, but This, I know.

Thanks 25. I know that I will be okay, and even happy, once this is all over... one way or the other.

Denver

[Denver_2010]

Update... Need thoughts and/or advice

W sent me an email 2 hours ago. I have not yet responded or attempted to call her.

"Hey,
I wanted to see if you'd like to finish up the science project with SS tonight. He should turn it in as soon as possible.

Also, I would still like to go on Saturday.

Hope you are well. I'm hanging in there.

W"

Does anyone else see how weird the tone of this is? I keep harping on this, but I am very bothered that we go from talking every day, going to her bro's wedding together, to the hospital to see her sis's new baby...

and now she's saying 'hope you are well.'

A BIG part of me wants to tell her that I don't think that it's a good idea for her to go with me on Saturday. A big part.

BITS
Denver

[LearningPatience]

Go and have fun!

My W is also being weird like this. No contact to telling me her life story when we do meet up.

Think of it this way - during the show, the two of you will be focused on the music and show, *not* each other (hopefully). Assuming the show is good, it will be a positive memory for both of you.

My 2 cents anyhow

[25yearsmlc]

Denver,

You want consistency more than happiness? Hey friend, she's not sure how she feels. But she's relaxed enough to be around you for an evening of musical entertainment.

So, why can't you see this as a gift?

[ninelives]

Have fun Denver. U2? YAHOOOOOOO.

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[InAPickle]

At this point I'd say don't read anything more into what she says, than what is on the surface. It'll just drive you crazy.

One of your goals as a LBS should be to deny the WAS a reason to believe that you're a source of her/his misery or unhappiness. Whether that means going to the concert or not going; that's up to you to decide.

It's a long, long road, but eventually it can lead to another level - becoming a source of happiness.

[Navyguy]

Denver,

While it may not be what you were getting a few weeks ago, her saying "hoping you are well" is still a positive thing. She could have said a million different things there, ranging from "I hope you burn in hell" all the way to "get over here right now and tear my clothes off". She also initiated contact and asked you to see her twice.

Go have fun with her.