Ok me and my wife have been separated for about 4 months. I did all the begging, pleading and calling u name it i did it. Well we talked Sunday and we got into another argument she sent me a text after our conversation saying see this is just proof you have not changed. I emailed her Michelle's video on waw and she said she watched it and it made her think but didn't change things. She continually brings up bad points in our marriage and rightfully so. She ended the conversation saying i just need to suck it up and move on that she has been telling me this for months. Does anyone think i should try to get her to read michelles book or just let it be for the time being.
I'm pretty sure the advice that you are going to get is NO. I think most people feel that the DB and DR are for you to work on making changes in yourself.
By having them watch the WAW video or reading the book, it just puts pressure on them.
When she decides she wants to work on the marriage that may be the time to introduce the books to her. But she has to come to it on her own.
Of course, I could be wrong. I know in my case, I hid the book from my W and still have it hidden.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
Ditto on what Harrier said! The book is for you only. It's your gameplan, it's your support. Sharing it will only make her feel like you're trying to manipulate her and not change.
What are your changes? Your 180's?
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
I keep backsliding but my 180's are to be more positive with her, do not assume things she is doing, dont analyze her every move and stop saying cruel things to her every time we talk.
Do you have another thread? Not much info above to advise on.
Take a deep breath. DON'T call her, text her, etc until you get yourself together. If that takes days, weeks or months then sobeit. Better to have good contact or no contact at all than bad contact.
Make a list of all you did wrong that didn't work and all you did right. Take the list of the wrongs and beside them, write alternatives to that behavior so you can do better next time. You said you've been doing all the wrong stuff for the past few months... then stop doing it.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
