I do think after 18 months you gave it your all. That is a long time, I am not sure I can last that long! It has only been 2 months and I read some of the posts with people still DBing after 2 or 3 years. I don't know what I have in me at this point, but I do know, that letting go of H at this time really gives me the strength to allow him space and time. Do I want my H to work on our marriage, yes, but I have no control over him, only myself. Letting go is empowering me to be the best me I can be so if he chooses to come back fine, if he chooses to not, fine. I just keep telling myself this. I am going to be fine no matter what he chooses.
I know this year is going to be a much better year for all of us!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
Lorie, I think you'll be surprised how quickly time goes by when you are just doing what you want to do. You'll realize how many things you hadn't done in sometime because HE didn't want to. You know what was the hardest for me? I had to "untwist" the pretzel I had become to stay in the marriage. I had absolutely no idea of who I was or what I wanted from life. It's fun, really fun to discover yourself again. To laugh, to play, to enjoy again. I took a 10-week divorce seminar based on the book by Dr. Bruce Fischer "Rebuilding: When your Relationship Ends." I would highly recommend looking for a support group, or at least reading the book." So, I read TONS of books and just thought about life again. You will be fine, no...you will be better and stronger than you ever imagined; no matter how things work out. Go with the Flow and let things unfold naturally.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Thank you Golfgirl! I am really working on my relationship with God right now as my first step to discovering me. You know, today is 1/1/11 and it is page 1 of the next chapter in my life! I am looking forward to it!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
I think the number "1" has something to do with angels. And, 2 of them in a row, like 1-1-11 is huge! May this be the start of an amazing year for you!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
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M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
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Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
Okay, I am sitting on my hands because I want to text H a happy new year text. I just want to text "Happy New Year, I hope it brings you all the happiness you want." Is that bad? I know it is crazy! I know he spending the weekend with OW! I guess, he would be expecting this, so my 180 is NOT texting H! I need to let this go! Okay I have to go get busy doing something and not think about this! LOL!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
Lorie, I'm sitting on your hands with you and mine too! I've been posting over in Newcomers but think I may be dealing with MLC. I think I'll text "Happy New Year" to some random phone number instead LOL. Who knows, maybe I'll make a new friend.
Me: 41 STBXH: 36 D: 11 S: 9 BOMB 12/2009 SEPARATED 5/2010 D SERVED BY ME 9/2010 FINAL D When I'm ready
I know, it is so hard. I have texted it to some of my friends and my D who is away this weekend. I believe I have moved passed the need to text H. I think it helps to post about those temptations, because it helps us NOT do them.
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
