I have to say, since I have been single, that I am a bit surprised at how willing guys are to mention other women to me.
I think part of the surprise is that, having been married for so long, I am probably expecting "husbandly" behavior (as in - he wouldn't dare suggest he finds another woman attractive!) from guys who, obviously ARE NOT my husband or even committed dates.
Also, at least with the one guy I DID date, I think because he knew I was not a prude, he felt he could share some of those thoughts with me. I never could decide if that was a good thing (see how honest we are and how comfortable we are together) or a bad thing (he sees me as a buddy).
I guess my point is - I'm not crazy about it but it is common. I wouldn't count him out just because of that comment - but I'd watch his behavior when you do date to see what he really tells you.
Well as a guy I have a bit of a different take on it.
Personally if I was interested in getting to know you and date you, then I would not be commenting to you about wanting to be in a room with someone else in the hotel I was staying in. I find it in bad taste. I get where you think it was a slap in the face, actually.
I see what you are saying BA, but if she hadn't joked with him about where he had been staying, he may not have said it. Maybe he thought it was a bit of a joke back. You just don't know. I still say, she doesn't really know the guy and can't make that assumption.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
apparently xh may be engaged. that is what his gf is saying anyway. it stung for a few seconds when I was told, but not for long and I am pleasantly surprised at how unaffected I am by the news.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Well he didn't waste any time did he. Detachment is a wonderful thing and so eases the pain of stuff like this. Just goes to show that your emotional involvement with him is over.
still just facebook friends, I guess that is as far as that is going. I would have liked to at least meet for dinner, but oh well. Closing on my house in a few weeks and have a great new house all lined up to move in to. new life, new house
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Sorry about the fb friend not going any farther than just that - but hey his loss and someone elses gain in the future!
Congrats on your new home!!! That is exciting! A new house really allows a fresh start - you can make it your own, decorate how you want it and it doesn't carry all the old memories of the past. I bought my own place last June and it was so therapuetic for me. I look at it as a huge factor in helping me detach and move forward with my life.
