I am glad that the internet is fixed too! Just needed a new modem!
My L said that a judge set a court date for Jan 5. Niether she nor H's L knew anything about it. I guess judges will do that sometimes especially when it has been awhile. So, both L's agreed and got it cancelled for now. I can still take as much time as I need to work on MY property agreement and think things thru.
I keep thinking that the longer it takes that I might be able to outlast the A but seem to be having more thoughts toward getting this overwith!
GAG...yes, SIL is very upset with H!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
I'm thinking that your H must have agreed to have the hearing canceled, his lawyer probably consulted with him...so he is obviously not in a big rush to get the D done....just find it interesting
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CW I am sorry that it is happening before the A ended. The weird thing is, if you decided to be open to R sometime down the line, you still can be. The D has given me a sense of freedom from suffering but hasn't made me stop loving exH. I am free to live my journey for a bit without worrying of consequences toward R. I hope you end up feeling similar when you are done...or that the D gets dropped of course!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I am here and doing good...keeping busy! Finally started Christmas shopping so feeling a sense of accomplishment!
Went with my boss to look at a couple of houses that are for sale in the town the kids go to school in. Didn't see anything that stood out but was fun to look! I admit kinda exciting to think of "starting over" in a new place! This will be inevitable after the D. My boss likes to invest in real estate and would rent to me with the option to buy if I wanted to.
NM-I am glad that you are in a place to being open to a new R. I just cannot imagine an R with anyone else right now!!! But, maybe that will change after the D!
GAG-Did you date after your D? Just curious and I understand if you'd rather not answer that!
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Hi CW - I can't imagine a R with someone else either....I'm thinking about it and trying to look at guys with different eyes then before...but it's hard to imagine that I may actually like someone "that way" and then act on it.....So far I feel "damaged" in that department. I'm thinking what's wrong with me? ....but maybe it's normal because I still love my H.
I have to start thinking Xmas...didn't do any shopping or any preparations at all yet...Maybe once I start I will get into a bit of Xmas spirit.
You sound good
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Im the same way as far as dating. I know this guy I have been talking to and becoming friends with,he wants to date me, but its hard to even allow myself to go there. To open my heart, I just dont know how.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Im the same way as far as dating. I know this guy I have been talking to and becoming friends with,he wants to date me, but its hard to even allow myself to go there. To open my heart, I just dont know how.
Kissak dear,
I really think all of us are going to be kind of raw until time
can heal us up a bit. I can't imagine dating either and never
thought about it in the M. I think now you can afford to be very
picky since you know more than most about men/women going through
something like this. At least now you know what NOT to look for
and some warning signs of potential trouble. That is another
gift/benefit (Mila) since you were listing them a while back.
It would be absolutely horrible to be even a little bit
desperate right now because that will come back to bite you and
remembering that the infatuation period is around 3 months or so
should be firmly entrenched in your head IMHO. I am not saying
you are desperate but remember what you have learned.
