Is it better to be truthful and risk losing a somewhat rewarding relationship or compromise for what you want.
I like this, but what is your answer to it?
I have no idea. I have cut off interactions when it just didn't feel right, when my intuition keeps pinging that something is off. I give it time but if the strange feeling remains then it's over. The cliche "It's not you, it's me." comes to mind.
And if something seems right I see where it goes, or try to with boundaries in tow. I've been in an unhealthy relationship before.. and it takes two to make it. I really don't want to fall into that rut again.
And on the sweet side of online dating - got a message today from another 20-something. This one is a pre-med, an American doing Peace Corps work in the Ukraine. He writes:
"I wanted to let you know that I think you are gorgeous. Suddenly I regret being so young and so far away."
No, I haven't written to him and I'm not interested in collecting a harem of much-too-young boys. But that was very sweetly put. I am still mystified to find myself, a middle aged woman, the object of young men's desires.
Had dinner/drinks (yeah, mine was tea!) last night with the instigator of the band I'm in, his wife (who also works here), and another coworker. The instigator's wife said something about when other people hear that I am singing with them the reaction is "Jeff????"... that makes it even more fun!
