MLC or not?

[Goodfight]

TAMF, check on the new thread that I wrote on also please.

[Cadet]

This is your financial security we are talking about - do what is best for you and your kids. contest.

YES! ^^^^^^^^

[Goodfight]

I'm afraid as far as DBusting goes on these forms.

I have to check off whether

A I do not oppose the entry of a divorce decree
or
B I oppose the entry of a divorce decree because and the only option I have on this if I check it off is because the M is not irretrievably broken. Because we have lived apart for 2 years so I can't choose that one.

I really need help on this one. Will it push H away if I oppose the D or will it show him that I'm willing to try to save this M.

Or do I go the other way and pick I do not oppose the entry of a divorce decree and just wait it out to see if he changes his mind and wants to work things out?

I'm really confused on this one everyone. Advice please.

I'm not giving up on the spousal or the child support.

[jon2911]

I think it's important to understand the difference between legal stuff, which really doesn't matter, and the relationship.

I was in a similar situation August of 2007, and my C showed me a couple Bible verses and said this:

"Right now she thinks you're the problem, and that divorcing you will solve it. There's nothing you can do to change her mind. Give her what she wants".

I'm talking about the Waiver of Service here. I was dragging my feet and trying to make it as hard as I could, making her have the sheriff serve me papers, etc.

It doesn't mean giving in to all demands, but really don't get worked up about contested vs. not, the reason, etc. This is paperwork, nothing more. It has nothing to do with reconciliation or relationship.

I know for me, when I followed my counselor's advice (one of the hardest things I've ever done), things started to change. She could stop being mad at me for dragging my feet, and realize I wasn't the cause of all her unhappiness. She got right up to the last step, I signed everything, and she never finalized.

[Goodfight]

Thanks Jon. I contested, well my lawyer had me contest because I don't believe in D but also so I can get spousal when I start getting it for a while longer. So it was for financial reasons and my beliefs.

My problem is I don't know what to say to H if he asks why I contested. Any suggestions???

I also posted on my other thread. I don't know why H is kissing butt. Could use some help on that one too.

Can you check that post out too and let me know what you think?

[Goodfight]

What does it mean when a MLC'er says after you have been together a few times during a separation that they can't meet with you in person? Anyone?

It's like he is afraid to meet in person alone for some reason and I don't know why.

[jon2911]

How's it going GF?

[Goodfight]

Jon,

Can you read my new thread and give me advice? I can really use it.