I'm Mystik, 32. H is 34. DS is 6 and a half. We have been living apart for two years. H is living with his mistress and just had a baby. However, H never bothered to finish filing the separation papers so we are not even legally separated yet let alone divorced. Not a pleasant situation for me at all.
I'm pretty much an open book so any questions, just ask. I’m sticking with newcomers because despite being here a year, I’m no further along in the process and I’m not really sure what other forum I would fit into. Is it an affair when he left me before he moved in with OW? We’re not at the divorcing point yet, he has to save up the money to file.
Dreamt about H twice in the past three nights. Thursday I dreamt he was trying to find a way to leave OW and the new baby without him being the one doing the leaving. He was trying to get her ticked off enough she broke up with him. Then last night I dreamt different things about H, all were about him trying to come back to me but I don’t recall all the details.
Had to see H this morning when he picked up DS. Was hard. He asked how the parent-teacher conference went, I told him he needs to call the teacher. He asked why and I said because she wanted to talk to him, DS is behind. He asked if it was reading and I said math, too. He waited a moment but I didn’t say anything else so he closed the door and I left. I cried the drive home pleading with God to please, please bring H home to me soon. Came home and dozed for almost two hours and then went to pick up DS. Again, cried part of the way home. DS distracted me with throwing out math equations for me to solve, for some reason that fascinates him.
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I am starting a new course of treatment for my depression. I have three forms of depression: severe clinical, situational and dysthymia. I have been admitted to an out-patient program for psychotherapy and teaching of coping skills to help me get through the depression. I had my first day on Friday, so far I’m not sure how it’s going to go. But it’s only been the one day, I know I need to give it a chance. It was very overwhelming, a lot to take in all at once. And it turns out the lady told me the wrong thing or I misunderstood her but I am in the full-time program so I go five days a week, from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. So now I’m stressing about work and how that’s going to affect my income because I’m barely scraping by as it is. I know that I need to have faith, it will all work out but it’s darn hard to.
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Be sure to ask your program staff about helping with work. They do this all the time and can give you guidance. Also, you probably have short or long term disability benefits. This kind of program qualifies. Your HR dept can help you file and your program can help with the documentation. You do not need to be very specific with your HR. It won't completely replace your income but it will take the edge off.
We are all so proud of you for taking this huge step. Just stay open to everything they have to offer. Do whatever they tell you. Trust that it will get results at some point. One day at a time.
You are an amazing woman with more strength than you know.
DB-mod, if I could just have a link to this thread posted at the end of my old thread so people can find me from there, please.
bluestar, working for the state I don't qualify for disability. Instead I get leave with half pay, where I will bring home half of my usual income after I have used up all my accruals. I am going to do my best to stay open and take in everything they have to offer. This will be my first week in the program so I'm sure I'll have a much better feel of things by Friday.
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I will be staying on my current meds as far as I know. And besides my sister, you guys here are the only people who know I'm in this treatment. My sister did tell my mom, I think. I sure as heck won't be telling my father, he has a way of making me feel smaller than small, I always feel like a disappointment to him.
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I don't mean disability like social security. I mean an insurance benefit that your company or state offers. What I am calling short term disability is what you call Income Protection Plan. It's a benefit for NY state employees. I linked it below so you could look at the Disability Claim for Accident and Sickness (A&S) Short term Disability (STD)/Salary Continuance Form. Make sure that you are taking advantage of that benefit.
