Soooo, not really thrilled about seeing 2 XXX flicks on my cable bill from last month....I texted H to let him know that I would NOT be paying for them. He agreed to pay, then tried to bait me into "talking" about them.
Ugh~ Issues.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
My H sure does know how to manipulate me...or just how to get to me. WHY is he being so nice now?? Why will he stop and take the trash out now, want to bring me and the kids breakfast? Want to hug me??? Wishing for me to have a good day! UGH~ He is soooo ticking me off with his "nice" behaviour! Then he finally pulls the crap of wanting to sneak a peak, if you know what I mean...wanting sex! Ugh, ok, I threw his butt out because of that problem with other women and here he is doing it to me! And what I hated was that a part of me enjoyed him "wanting" me. BUT I told him NO way!
Now today he is wanting to know whats wrong with me, wanting me to talk to him, tell him whats up. All I have said is that there is nothing I feel like talking to him about. This is MY issue to deal with and i dont need his help at all. I just need for him to leave me alone!!
I had to just have a good cry last night. First good one i have had in 2 weeks. My gut told me yesterday that he was with someone. My daughter tried texting him yesterday and she said he wouldnt answer her. I just told her he was probably sleeping, but later he told her he had just left his phone in his truck. NOT likely, but ok it struck a nerve in me....I just cried and had to look into the mirror and tell myself "remember WHY you did what you did, why you threw him out in the first place, you deserve better"
Bad night for me, but I got it all out of my system for now. Hoping and praying for a good week!
Thanks for letting me vent!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Your H sure has issues...after all he has done, he is asking you what's wrong?...and to have sex with him? He is trying to control you and manipulate you...hence his niceness....but it's not working....good for you.....
He needs to hit bottom and finally realize what he has done and what he is loosing before there is any chance that he will start facing his issues.
Hang in there hon (((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Thank you Mila...you are right...he is manipulative for sure!!!!!!!!
Im really at the end of my rope today with him. He is ticking me off to NO END!!! UGH~ I need to vent...
Ok, Im sooo sick of him being SOOOO nice to me...I mean, he is sending me texts telling me to smile and have a good day and wanting to have idle chit chat...texting me and saying "guess what", "I have email on my phone now". I was like, GOOD FOR YOU! THen he wants me to smile...I say I smile everyday...then I had it, I had to ask the question and i put it nicely...I said "not that I mind, but why are you being so nice to me now but couldnt while you were home". His reply "because I feel like it now". OK, well, then he said "i know you dont understand that" I said "no I dont" He said he really couldnt explain it to me but would stop if thats what I wanted...well, I certainly dont want him being mean to me, but MY GOSH, why werent I worth all this niceness before??? UGH. THen he goes on saying "Im sorry, hugs", then "smile", "keep smiling" and now "your smile is pretty" I honestly almost texted him and said "shut up!" I really feel like all those women he emailed, this is exactly how he treated all of them.
I have no idea how to handle this. Its really ticking me off. I know that makes no sense to some who would love to have their H/W's treat them kindly, but UGH~ I do not want to be treated like all them OW...I am NOT an OW!! I am his wife who thru him out because of stuff like this with OW...Now how do I say this to him????
OK...had to vent here before I blew up on my H. All I said to " your smile is pretty", was thanks.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Your firm stance has probably created attraction for him. He can't help but respect what he sees as you *finally* getting a backbone. It intrigues him.
Keep moving forward, and continue to do what feels right to YOU and for YOU. Try to continue to detach so that any interactions ... positive or negative ... do not affect you.
You are doing great Kissak! Peace, PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Thanks PEI.....thats what I want most, to detach so that stuff like this doesnt affect me at all. Bad thing is that Im letting it get to me today and this weekend. Trying to put the focus where it belongs is hard!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Kissak - this sounds like this is all a game to him...all of a sudden he's realized that he can't have you...so he wants you...and will do anything to get to you....and when he does???...he wins, looses interest and goes and chases the next new high? I don't know....He behaves like a sex addict...
What if you don't talk to him, stop playing his little phone games...just ignore him....it would give you the space you need
(((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I agree Mila...he is a sex addict. I think he lives for the attention. He even said he likes the attention he gets from it because it makes him feel good for the moment. I honestly dont think he would ever lose interest.
I have tried to stop with his phone games before, but then he just threatens to call me or come over. I do need the space though.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
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