CW, dating just isn't as much fun this time around (compared to before I was married). So don't rush. At least you know that divorced guy would totally go out with you if you would ever be interested in him!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
First off, I still have not subscribed to the site so maybe the one wink I sent out could not be returned! lol
Yeah, I only sent one last night just as a test. I know I will have to join in order to get anywhere at all with it. I took some advice from a seasoned vet on there and did not mention any specific things like, my job, my income, my home, because women would make judgements about me for the wrong reasons. I think I would have to agree with him but people are going to judge you anyway in that situation! The goal is to get them to judge me on a first date, not on some online profile.
Most of the women I am interested in are Moms. I am actually leary of women who do not have kids yet because I don't think I want anymore kids. I do know some ladies who are in their early thirties and do not want kids. That seems to be an exception though.
I guess it is a very personal taste. I cannot think of any one "type" of woman that I am attracted too. If I had to generalise I would say, girls shorter than 5'8" , funny/silly is a must, not too high maintnance, can cook popcorn on the stovetop, likes playing outdoors as much as shopping... I guess I like girlie tomboys?
The squishie stomoach thing is not a turn off if the rest of the figure is good. If a guy has kids then I think he knows what he is getting into.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Well I got another wink and he was pretty cute. He had a witty profile, loves his car and wants his girlfriend to "get dirty" with the grease....but he also likes other things that I do. So I emailed him a hello message. His job--didn't say.
zoobrew also texted me back when I was at the zoo! How funny. He said he is usually good at replying quickly except for now (not true) and that he would have replied if he ever got my text. All I said was "I guess I was just wondering why you were saying hi. Not to sound like a b!tch." Don't worry people- it doesn't cost me a lot of energy to send messages.
I also emailed the Helicopter Pilot. I can see a small baby hand on his shoulder in his picture. What the? Maybe his wife cheated on HIM. So we'll see how old his baby is.
Went trick or treating at the zoo....kind of. I mean it was a scavenger hunt of sorts where you got a stamp at the different animal sites and then at the end they give you a treat bag. It was full of free samples of cereal, granola bar, fruit leather, a pencil from a bank and a keychain from a bank.Where was the candy? NO SNICKERS?
Well I met 2 new single moms. The leader of the single mom group, Psych (she was a school psychologist) was rather guarded. NOt warm and fuzzy. Her husband cheated on her with a mutual friend when her son was a couple months old. He left to be with her.
She has only been separated since February but on the way to divorce. She wants sole custody and is fighting him for shared custody all the way. She was shocked that I was "letting" exH see S overnight 2x a week. I explained it was legal and that I didn't want S to not have a good relationship with his dad. But quickly stated that I am not thinking that is the case for everyone because I don't know everyone else's situation (akward!).
She kept saying how she couldn't imagine being with someone else, how would they interact with her son, that it was just weird to imagine.
The other mom didn't have a father in the picture. He was in and out. I don't know the story there. So it was enjoyable just to be with single moms who had babies and not children, but at the same time I got a weird "harsh" vibe from Psych. We'll see. I would still do something else with her...her pictures show a warm, smiling and happy lady and her emails sound so friendly but...brrrr!!!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I care about the job of the men out there...I just want to make sure they have one. And don't just work at 7-11.I'm not a gold digger! I also don't want to have to only use a buy one, get one free coupon to go out to eat.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I was wondering about too though newmama. I left my income blank because I know my XW is on the same site. It might be double what it was when we were together by the end of the year. I don't want her to know what I make anymore.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
I think job choice is more of a factor (for me) than income....I can take a good guess at the income. I am hoping that potentials have a rewarding career rather than a "job."
If a guy has kids then I think he knows what he is getting into.