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Busy day, yet too much free mental time.

I don't have any proof of an OM. She just seemed awfully friendly with her boss who has since moved to a diff city and job. Maybe that's got her depressed if she's going through EA/PA withdrawal. Again, I have no proof. Some of her behaviour the last two years fits the pattern of an affair: new clothes, hair coloring, makeup when she had previously never used much, etc. But I don't want to jump to any conclusions.

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I think deep down she's just scared to death of being alone, being financially vulnerable, and being unhappy for the rest of her life. Yes, I know that's mindreading, but she's also said this. Almost as if she expects to be lonely and unhappy.

She can't think further along than a few weeks or a month at most; when she kept talking about me staying until we paid off our debt, I asked her what we'd do then. She said she had no idea, we'd cross that bridge when we got to it.

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Pin,

If Coach says he smells A then you should look for EA.

To me your W seems like the one who would fall for that. Someone out there could be comforting her.

I have a friend whose W had an EA with a guy who actually helped him by talking sense to his W


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Well, unless she's calling the guy at work, there's no contact. No email, no IM, no fB stuff. I could see her having an EA since she felt so unloved and neglected.

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Tough day at work, lots of stress. And I'm stressed about moving out.

She had called me 2x throughout the day for stuff that wasn't very important. I told her we need to budget for summer daycare for the girls next year ($2K), and her reply was, "So, you're going to stay?" I said no, we just need to budget for it. Made dinner, W was very friendly, helpful.

After dinner we literally bumped into each other in the hallway, and I made flirted about it. Said that we might as well make the most of the days left together, wink wink. She made margaritas and we watched a show before heading to bed and ML. Yeah, cake-eating on my part. And on hers.

Got a good night's sleep.

Need to eat more protein, I've become too skinny. Want to add about 10lbs of muscle back on, take my weight up to about 190-195lbs.

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Pin,

If John's thread would be considered hardcore, yours is becoming softcore. grin

What's going on here? crazy


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She made margaritas and we watched a show before heading to bed and ML. Yeah, cake-eating on my part. And on hers.


Tag - you're it.

So does this jive with you becoming the WAS so she can feel you pulling away?

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"So, you're going to stay?" I said no


And the card she is going to play is_____________________?

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Said that we might as well make the most of the days left together, wink wink. She made margaritas and we watched a show before heading to bed and ML.



Didn't I predict this? When you know the other teams plays it's easier to handle it. Gucci advised- "Stick with your plan and be emotionally disciplined." She tested your resolve.


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Did she kiss you?


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Coach,

Sorry to Hijack but you mentioned a four or five step plan in a thread and I can't find it. I'm going through divorce.

be friend,

Date

Romance

I'm not accurate on these. Hopefully it jogs your memory.

Sorry for the Hijack pin.


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Nope, no passionate kiss...

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