Now I'm Walking Away Part 3

[pookie69]

I'm leaving. She'll have lots of time to think about them. I'm giving her the space she asked for in June.

Then it should not matter to her if you want to date or not.

It should not matter to her if you are her friend.

These are your decisions only, she should not "approve" od "disapprove" any of them.

[gutwrenching]

It would be interesting to see what Sandi or Greek thought about all this. I agree with Pookie - lots of confusion going on here...I wish I had more to offer at this point.

[pinhead]

If I recall right, Sandi was a WAW who wasn't involved with anyone, (no EA/PA) but just unhappy. Sounds a lot like my wife.

[pinhead]

I'm leaving. She'll have lots of time to think about them. I'm giving her the space she asked for in June.

Then it should not matter to her if you want to date or not.

It should not matter to her if you are her friend.

These are your decisions only, she should not "approve" od "disapprove" any of them.

She was giving me permission to date while we lived together for the girl's sake.

And she doesn't want to lose my friendship; I've told her that I probably won't be able to be BFF with her.

[pookie69]

Losing her best friend may shake her enough to get her mind straight.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Pin,

You mentioned that she would do anything for the kids.

Maybe she needs to be w/o you to know what "anything" means.

I totally understand your perspective with the finances.

[pinhead]

Sandi (if you're reading),

Since your sitch had some similarities to my wife's, how would you view her actions lately? Just quirky behaviour or signs of something else?

[Coach]

Last night she said again that I could date if I wanted to.

- no self-esteem

- she's having an affair, this is said to ease her guilt

- depression

I don't think I could let that go by, it speaks to your character and what kind of father to your girls you really are.

[pinhead]

Coach,

This was the second time she's brought it up recently, and I again told her I had no plans to date while married, thinking it would be setting a horrible example for our daughters.

She has horrible self-esteem, and she also thinks she's developing an ulcer. I don't know about depression. And I have no intel regarding an affair, though she might have had one with her old boss (long gone). I really feel sorry for her and hope that our separation can give her some time to work on herself, but I've resigned myself to expecting her to stay the same.

She's almost as screwed up as I am. She's called me twice today, mostly for stuff that could wait.

[soleil]

Didn't realize there may be a possible OM Pin.

I wanted to say Hi to you. Hope your day is going well.