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And....he just asked me the last time I pleasured myself.


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I'll tell you about a friend I had many years ago. He had this theory that one in ten women will say yes when you ask them ........


Or in creepos case, "Nine out of ten women will slap you but that one woman...." smirk


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When I used to date a lot, this is kind of the numbers benchmark I used for measuring whether or not I was doing well:

1. 3 out of 10 women you ask out will say yes.
2. 1-2 out of 10 women who say yes to a date will really be into you.

3. 1-2 out of 10 women who are really into you will not have major emotional baggage or serious mental problems that come up by date 3 or 4.

So... if you ask 300 women out, 100 will say yes, 20 will be really into you at most, and one or two won't be so nuts (or be "users") that you figure out they are nuts by the 3rd date.

And you may have to go out on 100s of dates to find those one or two women who aren't nuts.

You have to learn to have fun with it despite the challenges that come up smile Oh, and let them talk... so you know if they are nuts, users, etc.

The solution to dating 100s of women you may never date more than once is cheap first dates (cup of coffee, a trip to the zoo, etc).




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Oh, and keep in mind there are only 365 days in the year, and you need to do things other than dating too, so keep first dates short smile


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That's a problem for me. I don't know if I'd get through eight rejections to get to a yes. Although, if I count it up, I'm at three so far.


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That's a problem for me. I don't know if I'd get through eight rejections to get to a yes. Although, if I count it up, I'm at three so far.


Hey, you're on your way! Wait until you find yourself messing with them by encouraging them to tell you their deepest secrets (yikes! You don't want to know what some women will tell you just yet). Women are amazingly interesting. Take the focus off yourself (you can do that when you are at home all alone) and make it all about them. Who are they? What are they hiding? Squirrels in the attic? Is their an animal under that librarian exterior?


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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals

So... if you ask 300 women out, 100 will say yes, 20 will be really into you at most, and one or two won't be so nuts (or be "users") that you figure out they are nuts by the 3rd date.


For some reason, being alone is looking much more attractive right now! I'm thinking hanging out at the malls and looking down women's tops as they go down the escalator might be a more practical alternative, especially in the summer months...not that I've ever done that, of course. Hey, CTH doesn't even have the energy for the above mentioned dating process and he's way younger than me. Y'know, maybe there's something to be said for arranged marriage!


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If you don't mind "crazy", finding somebody who's really, really into you should be seriously easy. Say 15-30 different dates at most.

If you live by the rule "Never get serious about somebody crazier than you", it's just much harder.


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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
If you don't mind "crazy", finding somebody who's really, really into you should be seriously easy. Say 15-30 different dates at most.

If you live by the rule "Never get serious about somebody crazier than you", it's just much harder.


I already married "crazy", that's why I'm here!


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I forgot to add that these numbers are based on people in their mid 30s or older.

It could easily take many years to find a very, very good woman who is really into you, not crazier than you and not carrying a ton of emotional baggage. Chances are you will convince yourself somebody else is a fit and not put yourself through the numbers game smile

Dating 2-3 women at a time, making room for new "coffee dates", and so on, gets to be a grind in itself if you try to speed the process up smile

And then... it only takes a short time to screw everything up with this "ideal" woman, and it is easier to do that when you are used to dating 2-3 of them at a time smile

Boy, glad I got that off my chest.


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So in other words, the mission field is probably a good idea? wink


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