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Yeah, I can see being "friendly" up to a point, but friends? Not a chance.

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I met this hot girl and she has a cool brother. Want to go on a double date? crazy sick


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Does anyone have contact with Sandi2. I'm just curious what she would think too?


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say. i have plenty of in my life
i dont anymore.


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I think I'll wait a little while, and read all the suggestions before I decide to say anything. I just feel like that confirms, there is VERY likely OM.


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Yep, she wants to keep you around for "support" and as a safe cushion in case things with the OM fall through.

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think I'll wait a little while, and read all the suggestions before I decide to say anything. I just feel like that confirms, there is VERY likely OM.


Let's say you get divorced and decide to move on. Let's say you meet a nice classy lady. Do you think she's going to hang around if you have an ex-wife that comes over and who is your buddy?

Nope, it's not going to happen.


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I should note, I'm a little concerned as to how to respond as I don't want her to turn vicious since the divorce is still pending. I fear if she becomes angry, she will get ugly too. But I do need to establish a boundary here. No Friends... All or nothing I think is wise


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Don't let your fear of your wife control you.

What's she going to do, divorce you twice?

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First off DB and DR, refer to Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy. In there are all the principles that you will run into on this site. Go out and get a copy ASAP! The answers to alot of your questions are in there.

Next...stop being scared. This is going to be a long process so you're going to have to stop panicking and start coming up with a plan.

I tell you one thing though. It's going to be the toughest thing you're ever going to do in your life. It's going to be counter-intuitive. It's going to go against everything you believe you should do. But if you want to try saving your marriage, give it a shot.

This process will test you in ways you never imagined. And it will be HARD. Are you willing to put in the commitment?


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Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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