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I moved this past weekend. I'm back in the what was "our house". It's now mine. I'm very tired from the move, had some apprehension about feelings/memories that might arise but I'm OK.


"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib
Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
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Sleeper,

You are also very brave. When this is over, regardless of the outcome, all I want is out of this house. With him or without him. It's like it was built on an Indian Burial Ground, and all that remains is bad memories.

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Sleeper, Glad you are settled into better surroundings.


M: 16 years
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Thanks. I'm glad to be "home.". I was just thinking how great it will be to make a fire in the fireplace on Christmas morning.


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Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
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For the curious (or just for the he'll of it)

X and Omh's move to their new house was no hayride. Apparently there was a lot of stress. X told me herself, "this hasn't been a positive thing at all." She called me more than once in tears.

My house is still half full of her (not his) stuff. Some of his stuff is still in the workshop. Trash day is this Monday. X said they would come to get the rest but that was two weeks ago this weekend. Trash day is this Monday. I'll be busy this weekend.

I have noticed X is much more friendly all of the sudden. It's kinda weird.


"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib
Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
Bomb and OM 12/15/06
Separated 01/02/07
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interesting ......keep posting,

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That was entirely predictable...not your problem smile!

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Originally Posted By: Andabelle
That was entirely predictable...not your problem smile!


I agree. Well said!!


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I dunno if anything has or will be "predictable".

Interactions between X and myself are becoming more and more relaxed. I dare say there is none of the tension that existed between us for about three years following separation. Conversations are so comfortable and like years ago that I shocked myself the other day when I almost said, "I love you" as we ended a phone conversation. Wierd.

Im happier now than I have been in years. I'm out of an apartment and just beginning to make this place mine. I hav a home now, not just a place where I live. Finances will be tight, tighter than they have ever been but that challenge doesn't reduce my newfound peace of mind.


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Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
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Sleeper,
You've come a long way....

I'm very happy to read that you are out of the apartment and making your home yours. Yes, finances will be tight, but you may be pleasantly surprised that you'll be able to do a lot of the remodelng/redecorating on a shoe string budget. Give yourself some time to figure out all of your finances.

As for your xw, I'm glad to see that things have settled down and the tension is gone. It makes interacting w/her a bit more pleasant.

Sounds to me like your life is getting better and better all of the time!


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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