Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gutwrenching]

You know your W better than anyone and you are at a crossroads, so if you placing that book might help, good on you. Better than cowering and waiting for her to make the next move. Now the key will be when she brings it up...will be time to talk openly about this being one of the issues that you feel would need to be resolved to work things out

[gr8 day 2B alive]

not cowering and waiting for her to make the next move.

I gave her a sign I may be willing to work on things.

Just as the WAW will test me, I too will be conducting my own tests.

It's the feeling out stage.

[Vulcanized]

Reading along, nothing of any insight to post.

Good luck, which ever way you decide.

[Coach]

I put a copy of "The Sex Starved Marriage" in the exchange bag.
Wanted her to get some knowledge about how we did things wrong.

You will get tested on this. She will test your "knowledge" of what you have learned. Even if it's not right away.

Wonder if you'll get a copy of "DAM" in the bag in return?

[Kalni]

Why would you put a book in the exhange bag and not exchange a word about it? What is this? Sorry, I may have missed something but that doesnt sound very... brave nor does it show leadership or the other things men on here keep repeating.

You are walking carefully, you say. I see a man who doesnt know what he is doing and is giving mixed messages.

What you do now, sets the pace and the context of your piecing phase. I got burnt a few times. I am sharing what I learnt. If you want open free communication you dont "put a book about sex" for your wife to read, while you still dont know if you want to be with her. You dont "tell her" sex is the biggest problem you have (even if it was, I dont believe that is your problem now my friend) and you ask/communicate questions about things that are important. Gives her a clear idea of what she is up against/ what YOU are up against and gives you some more info/data about what she is thinking/how she has processed things.

What do you want? How do you want it. What would be ideal for you? What stands in the way? Share that with her. See if your "ideals" match, then see what has to be done to get there. Would you both agree to give it your all? Do you both realise how difficult it is? The phases you will go through? No games. There is your chance to lead. My 2 cents.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

thanks K. deep down I believe i
want to save the M. With that
in mind I should be leading this R. my initial
plan was to talk about what we
want. that should still be the plan

[pookie69]

thanks K. deep down I believe i
want to save the M. With that
in mind I should be leading this R. my initial
plan was to talk about what we
want. that should still be the plan

Cut to the core bro!

[gr8 day 2B alive]

OK. so after getting smack last night by K, I did text the W about the book.(See works second shift so I couldn't "call"her)

I said I put a book in the bag today. It helped me get a better undeerstanding of our situation. It is informative. If you get a chance take a peek.

She did reply back : I did see that and a did start to read it.

Letting it rest for awhile.

Off for a round of golf today!

gr8

[pookie69]

Great. She did not hit you on the head with it.

Sounds like you should let it go and wait until she brings it up.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

right. damage control done. now
time to wait for her response.

continuing to live for me and my kids.

great round of golf today. eight pat s

dinner then a massage. hot tub will be
up and running this week.
woo hoo