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Yes, it is better. You aren't supplicating yourself.

Now back to the assertive, confident, charming man that really lives inside of you who is dying to return since this truama triggered all of these patterned responses.


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Originally Posted By: dsh4320


W: Call when you leave church(i had beep off so I didnt get it until we were almost back to my place)

Me:They are asleep in the car

W: U were supposed to let me know when you left

At this point I wanted to go off on her, but I didnt

Me: I just now saw your text

W:Church started at 7 when did you leave church?

Me:What does it matter?

W: Did you even go to church?



I'm a comedian and smart a$$ by nature, I saw that last line and had to comment on it,

who lies about going to church?

LOL!

If I ever had to lie about going somewhere, I'd definitely pick another location to lie about.

Too funny.

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who lies about going to church?

LOL!


Rob, and humor is very charming and attractive smile That works too. Very "Cary Grant".


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Yes guys I thought that was pretty funny as well. I have lied about stupid stuff before, but going to church? how could she ask that, the controlling and where do you go when your not with me definately came out. People have told me she wants to be independent, but doesnt want anyone else to occupy my time. I guess she wants me to curl up in the corner in a fetal position crying and sucking my thumb!

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People have told me she wants to be independent, but doesnt want anyone else to occupy my time.


= leverage


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Yes Coach, but what makes her think she is entitled to that?

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YOU if you enable it. Just like you, all she can CONTROL is herself.

If she chooses not to be with you then YOU are free to choose to be with other people.

Fair is fair. wink

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but what makes her think she is entitled to that?


She's not as detached as she appears.


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Originally Posted By: dsh4320
Yes Coach, but what makes her think she is entitled to that?


Why do you allow it in the first place?

If you allow someone to control you, are they to blame or are you?

No one is entitled to do this, but by being passive and quiet and allowing it, you technically entitled her to be this way.

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Yes Robx PMA and Coach, I have allowed it, so I need to end it. She does not have the right to know my whereabouts or if I have the kids, they are always safe with me, whether its church or chuck e cheese I dont need to give her my schedule with the kids.

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