21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[pookie69]

You don't think you could say "I was thinking about it and decided that I could give you the first offer for the ticket because you are the mother of our kids. That would be the right thing to do. If you don't want it I can ask someone else."

I don't think that's backtracking or being pushy.

I may be wrong.

[Chuck66]

I will offer. I haven't given to many olive branches lately.

[sandi2]

I disagree, FWIW.

[Chuck66]

6835 posts beat out 100 posts...lol. I won't invite. I will just go with the kids.

[LSG]

Chuck66,

That is tough call for you. I never exclude W for anything because I do not want to see me do the things that W has done to me if it is something big like a birthday, dinner, etc. I would not do this if living separately.

Your call on this one. I think is okay as Pookie suggested or to go without her.

[Chuck66]

We live together/same bedroom too. I will just get ready for the game. If she mentions it and wants to go I will let her if not I will have fun anyway.

BTW LSG,
You were talking about how expensive it was in Cali (at least I think it was you). Move to Missouri, things are cheap. Gas, homes, food are all very inexpensive compared to the rest of the country. We have low unemployment too. I live in economic oasis with three universities in a town of 100,000 people. We swell to 145,000 people when the students are here.

[LRT Land]

So what happened? btw - I've had to reduce my starbucks intake due to my current condition. Drink a venti for me!

[Chuck66]

Don't know yet. W is laying in bed awake and kids are eating breakfast. I have 2 hours before we go.

I bought a Latte from McDonald's yesterday. and in keeping with my faux social life I poured the drink into my Starbuck's cup. The McDonald's Latte sucked. No wonder it's a $1.25 cheaper than SB.

[LRT Land]

LOL - could have told you that about McD's lattes! Last week (before I knew) I had an iced coffee with sugar free hazelnut, then added half n half. Yum!

[Chuck66]

While I was out on my faux social life last night from 4:30 pm until 12:30 am (Saw "The Other Guys" at the movies. Not that great of movie) she had cleaned all four bathrooms, done the laundry, the dishes, made the beds, cleaned the hardwood floors, cleaned out the refrigerator, etc.

The only conversation we had before I left with the kids to the baseball game was to thank her for each of the items and I specifically mentioned each one for her when I thanked her. She said she knew that I was busy last night...That was a pretty nice dig.

She never did ask to go to the game or who I was taking in her stead (took no one else). I never asked her to go and the kids and I had a great time as the Cardinals beat up the Giants 9-0. Before I left I wrote her a note thanking her again for all the housework she had done the night before and I left one Hershey Kiss and one Hug on the note. First nice thing I have done for her in a long while. I know how to detach but not so good on the detaching with love.

I have pretty good indications she went to her work for most of the time we were gone. I don't think she likes to be alone in the house. I have also noticed she does not take the kids out unless she has another adult with her. Ice cream or swimming or whatever, she must go by and pick up her mom first. It's almost like she needs a safety net with the kids.

We took our time getting back from the baseball game and stopped at Taco Bell. First time the kids had ever eaten there (they were bummed it didn't have a playground) and loved the food.

When we got home she had already made an entire fried chicken and ate supper by herself (we were 45 minutes later than usual returning. I did not know about her supper until after she went to bed and I saw all the food wrappers in the trash.

I also took my new necklace off and left it in the car. Thought I'd save that card for another day.

We did play two games of Bingo with the kids. First time in 10 days W and I played with the kids at the same time. She played the entire time knowing she had made us all supper and we ate out instead and kept it to herself.

My faux nightlife along with a 10 hour play date with the kids and I am exhausted. Good night.